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Female Low Libido

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colin47
colin47

Hi to all females

I am appealing to you for your advice.  My wife is 60 years old and has low libido and zero clitoral sensitivity.  Does any of you lovely ladies have any advice about home remedies/herbal treatment.

A bit of history to help you.  She had a sterilisation about 30 years ago, has hypothyriodism but manage correctly with levothyroxine (levels correct as of two weeks ago). Slightly overweight, very active and eats a good diet.

My wife used to orgasm during sex and that was fantastic. She has never masterbated, or used a vibrator.  She had zero sex for at least fifteen years due to my erectile dysfunction, which is now well and truly reversed.

She says she enjoys sex but I feel its all one sided and the pleasure is all mine.  I would like to see her enjoy it more than she does.

My question is how can I raise her libido and raise some sort of sensitivity to her clit.  She will not entertain any sort of HRT, but may consider something in the herbal range. She is very reluctant to visit a doctor.

Can anyone offer any advice on these lines. Basically, what works for you ladies that I could offer to her.

Thankyou x

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  • simonthethird
    simonthethird colin47

    Posted

    Though - obviously - not female I really would suggest that "herbal" self "prescribed" remedies are not the answer. This is a medical patient forum. Why don't you both get a referral to a doctor or gynaecologist who really will look for a tested way forward
  • Hazel1962
    Hazel1962 colin47

    Posted

    Hi Colin,

    Your wife most likely has low libido because of her age, menopause does that for women! 

    Having no Clitoral sensation is rare as the clitoris is full of nerves and designed purely for pleasure. She would be as well to seek medical advice about this as there may be another problem, perhaps fusion of the labia majora.

    there are no herbal or home remedies for loss of sex drive. However if your wife says she enjoys sex then maybe she is content by the fact you are getting pleasure, women unlike men don't always have to come to feel satisfied. She may be happy just to have the closeness intercourse brings. 

    You could try other ways of giving pleasure for instance a sensual massage, it doesn't always have to be about sex for women, she may appreciate this just as much.

    Hope this helps.

    • colin47
      colin47 Hazel1962

      Posted

      Hi Hazel

      Thank you for your kind reply.

      I thought I understood about female sexuality, but some of the things you said have made me think about it more.  I am sure her age has a lot to do with it, and if I had not suffered for so long with erection problems I would have been more alert to my wifes declining sex drive. My problems were prolonged owing to my male family GP who couldnt have cared less about it when I went to see him.

      I feel so guilty about it now and it maybe this thats driving on to search for a remedy for her low libido and her clit that does nothing when I touch it.  I want her to start getting enjoyment out of sex and perhaps come now and then.  I feel I am just using her for sex and its all one sided, although she seems happy enough to do this.  Sex is a two way thing isnt it.

      She has started L-arginine tablets two weeks ago to try to get things moving, but nothing has changed yet.  I suppose it could take some weeks yet to work.  I wonder if the length of time without sex during my problems have done anything to cause this.  She is not one for masterbation and says she never has, so I believe she just shut down during this long period.

      I wish she has been used to masterbation so that she could have seen to herself and perhaps kept her clit a little more lively. When I spoke to her some time ago about masterbation she just said "women dont do that", so I left it there.

      I will have to give it some time yet and see if the L-arginine does anything. 

      Thanks for your kind help.

      Regards

      Colin x

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