Fibro fog

Thanks for your words of wisdom magpie, looking back I decorated a room for my grandson, well helped lol, and it was after that I felt like this, so your right (again) lol. Sometimes I think we get caught up on having a good day or rwo then go and do something we used to be able to do with ease, forgetting we would pay. Thanks again, just sometimes these symptoms seem so harsh and you forget you have felt like that before and it will pass xxxx

Yes sweetie. I think realising this can help us greatly to recognise when we are doing too much. It all has to do with self care. We often worry and care about others, but rarely do we give ourselves a break. And yes respecting those limitations is very hard I agree. But wisdom dictates that if we want to have some joy and peace in our lives, it is absolutely necessary and crucial in coping with this condition. I think that we are often perfectionists, and if we can't accomplish something to a certain degree, we feel like we have failed. I think in our case, half is often better than whole! I think we don't often listen to our bodies. It tells us way before we have reached that limit but we often ignore that flashing orange light. We need to clue in and respect that intuition. xx

You are so smart and I agree with everything you just said, I really need to give myself some of that acceptance and forgiveness that I give to others. Xx thanks again magpie xxx for just being there xx

Thanks Paul, your words are so right, everything you said makes sense, I think sometimes we don't see it so we can for that split second forget as that's as much a symptom isn't it forgetfulness xxx thanks Paul it's just so good to know your not alone xxx oh and I hope you get a 😴 sleep xxx

Hi Paul. Well you must not think less of yourself. All that intelligence and knowledge is still there. This world however, puts a great deal of pressure on performance and advancement. And people like us who were often overachievers, have often done above and beyond the call of duty. I think that many of us have had very low self esteem in the past and excelling in any particular field or talent, was usually the way we built our self image. We never felt 'good enough'. So we often went overboard. Demanding or expecting ridiculous goals to be met. We often went out of our way also to please others. To get their acceptance. People who were very hard to please and did not really have our best interests at heart. So this mindset I believe, stays with us for the rest of our lives. But this pressure eventually takes its toll. Mostly because it is excessive and unrealistic. When we no longer can perform at that level, to us in our minds, we have failed. The demands we often put on ourselves Paul, we would never imagine demanding these of those we love. There is a Bible scripture where Jesus says, to love others as we do 'ourselves'. We unfortunately forget that last part. Loving ourselves does not mean in an egotistical way. It means rather, that we have realistic expectations of ourselves and we respect and value our needs and the inner person we are. FM sufferers are usually some of the nicest and caring people I know. That is of much more value than any achievement in the secular world. Our thoughts can often deplete our energy. All these automatic thoughts that often go through our minds that we are never 'enough'. To those who love you Paul, you are enough! And you have no doubt done more that your best in life. We need to reeducate our minds to be kinder in our often too critical evaluation of ourselves. I think that if we start to really think about our good qualities, and they are there; we will have a more realistic and accurate self image. Take care of yourself Paul. Respect those limitations and nurture 'You' for a change. Maggie 

Yes I have all of that, with haziness it is like I need to shake my head and everything will settle down, I feel fragile? Let us know how your scan goes cherub xxx

have you gotten your test results back yet?