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samantha32442
samantha32442

Hi Ladies

Im 50 and over the last 6 months but particularly the last 6 weeks ive been experiencing some awful symptoms. I have  an implanon (which is due out in january and never going back in) and not had a period for over 9 years so unable to gauge whether i am menopausal because of a lack of periods. I am normaly extremley active and never been prone to anxiety or depression but over last months i feel like my legs wont hold me up most days, i feel shaky inside and I have burning pain in my muscles (mostly at night), i sweat at night (not every night). i feel off balance and unsteady and feel sooo anxious i can barely drive or go into a shop, complete lack of sex drive much to my partners frustration. blood tests, ecg,blood pressure, brain mri all absolutely fine which is a relief. Im sure my doctor is getting fed up with me over last few weeks , he has not mentioned hormones/menopause but obviously im at "that age". i stumbled across this forum and so many of your symptoms match mine. Its literally driving me mad and just want to feel like the person i was 6 months ago again..

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  • Sassyr12a
    Sassyr12a samantha32442

    Posted

    Hello Samantha

    It's lovely to hear from you. It certainly sounds like your hormones have dipped. Possibly the implant has kept everything ticking over, and this is your crash into menopause. Your symptoms match what we have experienced, and for me this kind of happened quickly too and so it's a big shock. It's good to know that the tests the doctor has done are clear, but I would definitely return for blood tests to check your hormone levels, and then talk about your options. The symptoms can be so hard to deal with day to day, that you may benefit from hrt. I've been on bhrt since March, and whilst it's not perfect, it's a lot better than it was and it's manageable. In the meantime, just look after yourself and try to stay as positive as you can. What helps me is exercise, yoga, homeopathy, rescue remedy, kalms and mindful meditation. Hope you feel better, and please don't worry about bothering your doctor... Go with your gut xxx

  • Guest
    Guest samantha32442

    Posted

    Hi Samantha...sounds like you are at tbe doorstep to menopause.  I am in perimenopause...but I became very symptomatic out of the blue!  I kid you not...July 5, 2017 my life changed.  I was absolutely fine a month prior, active, weekend trips.  No prior history of anxiety or depression.Then, running ragged with tests, etc.  I finally found a good obgyn last week who completely validated what I had suspected all long. If you do not have an obgyn, please seek one out.  if you do and they are not listening...find another!  Don’t get menopause care from your primary dr....keep them for your referrals and routine stuff.  Otherwise, you will just be told you have anxiety and be given  an antidepressant. (Been  there, done that) My  obgyn is in her early 50s.  I am 41.  Good luck!  
    • beth54337
      beth54337 Guest

      Posted

      This sounds just like me.I was freaking great 2 months ago,bubbly loved joking and having fun with my kids,then boom all of the sudden a whole new me.Anxious,jittery,not sleeping well,crying one minute,feeling ok the next.I feel like I don't know who I am anymore and it sucks.I just hope it doesn't last forever and I can be me again,or at least some what like the old me.I will be 43 in November.Hang in there,it's got to be better someday.

    • Guest
      Guest beth54337

      Posted

      It’s terrible.  Mother nature is cruel old hag sometimes!  You hang in there too!
  • samantha32442
    samantha32442

    Posted

    Thank you so much for replying , it has made me feel a little better that im not alone in feeling like this.I will definently be requesting a hormone level test , it does sound like it possibly could be after doing some research into all the symptoms im experiencing and reading the threads on here .I feel so strange all the time im actually contemplating cancelling my holiday in 3 weeks times as I dont think I can deal with Heathrow airport or the 8 hour flight feeling like this .
    • beth54337
      beth54337 samantha32442

      Posted

      Don't cancel your trip.Go and try to enjoy it.I refuse to let this stop me from enjoying things,I am going out of town soon and I will enjoy myself,even if I have anxiety attacks,I will not let this stop me,and neither should you.Dont let it control you,you control it.Do what ever it takes to go and have a good time.

      God Bless

    • Sassyr12a
      Sassyr12a samantha32442

      Posted

      Yeah I agree Samantha, go on your trip it will do you good. As long as you can accept how you feel at the moment and try not to let it swamp you, a holiday is always a good way to feel a bit better and get a change of scenery. You have a while yet to get some answers, and put some measure in place to get some support xxx
    • theresa53424
      theresa53424 samantha32442

      Posted

      Samantha, I cancelled my vacation because of my peri menopause. I don't regret it because Honestly there was no way I was going to make the trip. I did reach out to my OBGYN and she wanted me to try Paxil, I was a little hesitant because I'm allergic to SSRI's, the side effects are horrific but she said with my body changing the Paxil might work. I have heard it works for others but not for me. My symptoms worsen after 3 days of being on it, My anxiety heighten, panic attacks, sweating profusely, my blood pressure spiked and I fainted. I stopped the Paxil immediately. Called her, and then she wanted me to try another anti depressant. I said, absoluty not! Last week i went to the Pharmacy and I bought Estrovan, and another natual menopause product. I take a AM pill, and sometimes I'll take a second AM pill in the afternoon. At night I take the PM pill along with the Estrovan. I can honestly say I feel like myself and I'm finally sleeping. I've been sleep deprived for over a year now, extreme anxiety, Hot Flashes 24-7, night sweats, body jerks, Brain Fog, dizzy, off balance, flu like symptoms, stomach issues, bathroom issues, heartburn, the list can go on and on..... This has been daily for a year and 1/2 but this summer was the absolute worse. The humidity got the best of me, even with a fan and my AC on I was putting cold packs on my body during the night every two hours. Then I felt like I was loosing my mind because I couldn't stand living like this, honestly my life had no quality anymore and my work was starting to suffer from it. If these over the counter products continue to work then I will be one happy person. I also lost 40lbs. I had blood work done and once again it all came back normal. If you try these over the counter products then maybe you can go on vacation and really enjoy yourself. I wish I had tried this before I cancelled my trip to Myrtle Beach. My family lives there too and I had to tell them that my Menopause was so bad that I couldn't make it. Keep me posted and good luck. 

    • Finny2018
      Finny2018 samantha32442

      Posted

      Samantha - I am so sorry you are going through this; when I read your post it's as though I'm reading MY first post on this forum in July. I had to cancel an annual trip I take each year with my hubby and kids. I had so many symptoms and they hit fast and furious and I could barely get a handle on them each day. You will likely hear from other women on this amazing forum that have also had to cancel amazing trips. If you can do it; wonderful and it would be such a gift for you I am sure. We all know our limits. It was so disappointing to tell my hubby and kids but I knew my limits and it was the first time at age 49 that I had to make that decision. I spent that time getting as much bed rest as I could and trying to educate myself on this nightmare and all of my options. The women here in this place are a Godsend - I am grateful each day for this forum. You are not alone. I was just reading another medical journal and it confirmed what I started going through; their words: Perimenopause/Menopause can produce some frightening symptoms. When I read that it was so validating; my symptoms were so frightening. You are not alone, Samantha. Take comfort in knowing you have found a place of wisdom and encouragement!

    • Finny2018
      Finny2018 theresa53424

      Posted

      Theresa - I was just looking at the box of Estroven yesterday at the store! Can I ask which one you are trying? I see there is one for Maximum Strength & Energy, Weight Management, Sleep Cool & Calm, & Stress Plus Mood & Memory. 

      Like you I also have no regret canceling my trip this summer; there was NO way I could manage all that was going on because it was all NEW. I remember a fellow forum friend, Lori, posting that if someone offered her an all expense paid trip to Paris and a shopping spree she couldn't do it. When I read that I could so relate as that was the condition I was in; there wasn't a single thing I was interested in as I was trying to get a grip on the overwhelming physical and emotional symptoms that hit like a freight train.

      I spent HOURS on this forum taking notes and gathering ideas and options. As of now I am doing that over the counter progesterone cream and due to some vaginal dryness I am trying the Estriol as well. I am doing SO much better than June and July; oh my. It was awful, horrible, frightening; I could continue the emotions but am grateful I am not where I was. IT'S A NEW SYMPTOM EACH WEEK! The old ones sometimes show again but it seems my hormones are on a tour and visiting every part of my body. I enjoyed your post, Theresa. Glad to know we can inspire one another with our experiences and options.

    • theresa53424
      theresa53424 Finny2018

      Posted

      I have the Sleep Cool & Calm and I'm using Natures Bounty Menopause AM and PM pills. Over the counter. This morning was rough on me. I had a good 5 days but I'm sure they wont always be good but I'll take what I can. What does the Progesterone Cream do for you and can I get this over the counter? I'm so thankful for this forum. So sad to think that we have to suffer like this..... It really does cripple you emotionally and physically. I hate the anxiety that goes with it, this overwhelming fear is horrible. Glad we can be helpful to one another. Theresa 

  • Guest
    Guest samantha32442

    Posted

    Oh Samantha...don’t cancel your trip!  I wish I did more stuff before all this hit.  Now, my vertigo is so bad, I can’t even walk up my driveway somedays!  Enjoy your trip, takes lots of pics!  🤗

  • lori55712
    lori55712 samantha32442

    Posted

    Hi Sam have your bloods fone to check if you are peri or post menopausal. Then you can decide what is best for you. I have been on HRT for 18 yrs and swear by it. Keeps me normal...symptom free and great for the libido!! Without it l am a mess , hot flushes, mood swings, dried up like an old prune and would rather poke myself in the eye with a stick than have sex!! Hope this helps you best of luck xx by the way l am on tibilone
    • samantha32442
      samantha32442 lori55712

      Posted

      Thank you .I went back to my gp surgery this morning and insisted on seeing a female DR.She was wonderful, listened to me and said that due to my age and symptoms it is hormonal and took me through my options and recommended various websites .im now on HRT (my decision) and she said i should feel differently in a week and to see her again before I go away .Im so glad I found this site ..I have my fingers crossed 😊

    • Guest
      Guest samantha32442

      Posted

      Oh that’s wonderful samantha!  Hope better days are ahead for you! 🙏🙏🤗🤗

    • lori55712
      lori55712 samantha32442

      Posted

      Happy to hear am sure you will start and feel better Sam. It may take a while to feel the full effects but you'll be rocking that holiday xx

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