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First time sex with herpes carrier?

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mark_97268
mark_97268

I have not had sex for over 10yrs, but recently met someone who's company I enjoy, I knew she had some kind of std, but did not press her for details, Yesterday we had intercourse for the first time, I used a condom.

In the morning we spoke about her std, which she told me was herpes, Today I have done some reasearch, and found that a condom is not completely safe, and maybe even kissing could lead to infection, I do like her, but have I opened myself up to eventual infection(if not already infected), 

Is there any drug I could/should take at this early stage of possible infection, 

Can this relationship work?

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  • J.Z21
    J.Z21 mark_97268

    Posted

    The relationship can work. She just needs to make sure to be on top of her medication and you guys use condoms as much as possible. When she is having an outbreak all sexual intercourse should be avoided as the transmission is high. As for the viral shedding it should be less since she is on the medication and when combined with a condom even less risk of transmission. As for medication there really isn't much you can take besides the actual herpes medication. I would wait because she took her medication and didn't have a n outbreak while you guys had intercourse you possible don't have it.
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus mark_97268

    Posted

    If you want to reduce transmission, it's her that needs to take meds, not you, and only if she has genital HSV-2. If she has genital HSV-1, you don't really need to worry.
    • Lollypop01
      Lollypop01 FelizCastus

      Posted

      My doctor won't give me meds unless I have reaccurances every 2-3 weeks or, 10 bouts in a year!! I'm gutted as I obv want to reduce the risk of me passing it on as much as poss.....I'm in the uk 👎🏼👎🏼
    • J.Z21
      J.Z21 Lollypop01

      Posted

      Could you possibly lie and say you get 10 outbreaks?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Lollypop01

      Posted

      Do you have Type 2? Otherwise there's no need. If Type 2, I know of a couple of folk in the UK who managed to get the meds prescribed for them as suppressive therapy, even without frequent recurrences. You just need to be persuasive and/or try another doctor. Alternatively, you can try ordering the meds online. Acyclovir is much cheaper and just as effective, but requires more pills.
    • Lollypop01
      Lollypop01 FelizCastus

      Posted

      I assume I have type 2?

      Primary was in genitals, I'm suffering bad with it to be honest...

      They didn't do a swab just looked at the blisters and said I had genetal herpes.....

    • Lollypop01
      Lollypop01

      Posted

      I've been having pain when I pee for nearly 5 weeks now....my groins are less swollen, but I also had some blisters come up in my mouth....on my tongue....and I'm itching id own there too.....I went and begged for them to give me daily meds but she refused and said unless I have bouts 2-3 weeks then they will treat as I have outbreaks.....p*ssed off and in pain!!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Lollypop01

      Posted

      Don't assume anything. It could be either. They should have swab tested you. That's unforgivable that they didn't, imo. Now you won't know till 3 months post-infection, if you're even able to get an IgG test out of the NHS. Alternatively, you can swab test the next outbreak, if you get one.
    • Lollypop01
      Lollypop01 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Can I do it myself or do I have to go to a GUM clinic.....I thought no problem il go private and have the IgG done in 3 months.....nearly £500

      I won't be going private!!!!

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Lollypop01

      Posted

      Wow, that's insane! Better to go on holiday with that money and do the test overseas, lol. You can order the test online via some testing services. Not sure how good they are, but worth checking out. Just make sure the test is for HSV-1&2 IgG (not IgM). But try GUM first, of course. Same for the meds, if you even need them (not necessary for Type 1).
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