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Hi, I need some guidance. I'm really at my whits end and don't know what to do anymore.
At age 23, I developed a horrible skin tag that put me in the ER for bleeding. The first surgeon I saw wouldn't perform surgery. Instead he gave me an ointment that helped relax my muscles and make using the bathroom easier. It helped for about a year then came back with a vengeance. I had just started dating my now husband and was super embarrassed so I went to another doctor. She right away wanted to perform surgery to remove the tag. While hesitant I was so ready to be over the pain. Surgery went well but after I healed I started having such bad pain after bowel movements. Like to the point I couldn't walk or even sit comfortably. She gave me some ointments before performing another surgery in which she removed a little more but also cut a tiny bit of the muscle due to having a fissure. Another surgery gone wrong... I then developed an abscess which landed me in the ER again. This was hands down the worst time in my life. I was horrified reading about abscess and anal fistulas. For about a year she tried treating it with antibiotics and drainage but it wasn't subsiding. Ultimately it came down to a third surgery.... fistulotomy.
Surgery was a piece of cake, as was healing even. Everything went well. But 6 months after the surgery and being fully healed, I started noticing an inability to control gas. My husband had me laughing so hard and I just had no control.
It's been 2 years now and it's really affecting my social life. I'm always on edge and uneasy. I never want to go to get togethers which I once loved. I have an anxiety about car rides now. I'm a complete wreck and haven't been able to really be happy and enjoy my relationship... though he makes me happy and I love him dearly. He's the only reason I get up and fight this everyday at work.
I am wondering if anyone has dealt with flats incotinence due to surgery and if kegel exercises can help?
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