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Found my daughter hanged in her bedroom

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jane14480
jane14480

Found my only 16 year old daughter hanged and dead her wardrobe.

Feel as though I want to die too.

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  • d_28417
    d_28417 jane14480

    Posted

    I am so very sorry for your loss.  There’s really no words to express my sympathy.   I’m sending up prayers for you and your daughter.  
  • julia23547
    julia23547 jane14480

    Posted

    I couldn’t not answer you. Just so sad for you, I really hope you have a lot of support. I only have one daughter and couldn’t imagine losing her in this way. What could I possibly say that is going to make any difference right now. Jane, please don’t deal with this alone, you need to be supported. Life can be so cruel. Here if you need to chat.
  • laurie12351
    laurie12351 jane14480

    Posted

    OH Jane I am so very sorry for your lose. That is a horrible thing for any parent to have to go through. I wish I had some words that could help in your healing. I can definitely understand your desire to not go on but it is not what I believe to be the right choice. For whatever reason your daughter chose to end her life does not mean that is your only choice. Allow yourself to mourn. Cry, scream whatever it takes. Maybe see a counsellor or find a support group for parents like yourself who have suffered a lose. But please don't give up. Live for her, for the life she cut short. If you can try and learn and understand how she felt to come to that decision. And in time if you wish use that knowledge you've gained to help others. This will be a lifelong heartache to carry and I'm so sorry that you have this in your life. But please don't give up. You are a valuable person in this world and can do much good to honor your daughter. 

    With much love and prayers.

     

    • jane14480
      jane14480 laurie12351

      Posted

      Thank you so much for your condolences. Yes it's a good thing that people do good in honour of their children that have died., but I don't know what to do. I don't have much motivation at the moment. I was invited by my sister to her house. Her son ( my nephew who is a lovely boy has a on line gambling problem. After I went home I emailed her thanking her for my stay and she replied accusing me of stealing a jar of coins that she had saved for her grandchildren from her bedroom. She said that I didn't stop there I found and stole 700 euros.

      I have never even had a glance of her bedroom and have been unbelievabley accused of doing such a terrible thing that I haven't done. I can only think it was my nephew who took her money but when I phoned her she seems to be indenial that it could be him. She said to me when I visited her not to blame the fact that I appear to slow to answer her on my daughters death. ( I said my concentration was a bit off sometimes) then she went on to ask me what my next 5 year plan is. Anyway after her accusation of my theft of her money, she said she is not ever having anything to do with Mr again. I did feel sad that I didn't receive a Christmas card from her so it feels like another bereavement. I don't have any other brothers and sisters.

    • carmela45627
      carmela45627 jane14480

      Posted

      Oh Jane I am so sorry. You can always come here and speak or vent. You will need to get things off of your chest. I’m sure that you are an honest person. Your sister will find out soon enough about her son. The truth always comes out. I wish you the best. I hope to hear that you have sought some kind of help or bereavement guidance.
    • jane14480
      jane14480 carmela45627

      Posted

      My sister knows about her son. He had councelling and she does think he he has got better. But if it wasn't me, but than likely it could only be him.

      What is so difficult is that she could possibly think I would do something to her like that

      especially to think I would even care about money after my daughter died. Her son has a gambling addiction and was probably desperate for some money.

    • carmela45627
      carmela45627 jane14480

      Posted

      I’m sorry this happened to you on top of everything else. Give your sister time to think. Right now do you have a bereavement counselor? You may want to look into that . Try to work on yourself. You have been through a horrible experience and you will need help and support. 
  • holly_t
    holly_t jane14480

    Posted

    My god Jane I’m so sorry for you. There are no words to express and nothing would make it better anyway. Do you have a support network? Family? Friends? If you’re feeling desperate can you call the Samaritans? 
  • carmela45627
    carmela45627 jane14480

    Posted

    Oh no, oh my God. Oh my God. What can we do for you. I am so so so very sorry. You poor thing. Please go and get help for yourself. Your daughter is with God now and she is protected. You will need to get help for yourself you need guidance and plenty of support.

    Please go, go and get guidance. Call your doctor or go to a hospital . I am so sorry. Please go and get help and you are always welcome to come back here anytime

  • carmela45627
    carmela45627 jane14480

    Posted

    Jane

    I cannot tell you that I know how you feel. I know that you are sad, shocked and hurting. You need support. You need somebody to go to so that they can hold you and comfort you and let you cry. Have you called your doctor ? Any family members to come and stay with you? Friends? The church? Please get some support.

  • Adldiane
    Adldiane jane14480

    Posted

    Dear, dear Jane there are no words and there will never be any words to say to you. I can't even stand the thought of you finding your precious baby in that condition. 

    Please though we will not be able to take the grief from you..that we will walk with you every step of the way. Write..rant..scream. Whatever you need to do. 

    God bless,

    Diane

  • hypercat
    hypercat jane14480

    Posted

    OMG I can't imagine how you must feel.  There is nothing I can say to make it better but am going to give you a very big hug.  I am so sorry.  xx

  • jane14480
    jane14480

    Posted

    Oh thanks for your condolences. Just watched programme about a couple with 20 children. Unfortunately she had one miscarriage, but the whole programme was difficult to watch as the family with all those children were so happy.
  • jane14480
    jane14480

    Posted

    Thank you all for your condolences. I don't know what to do with myself. I know I have to live with the fact that she has just gone, it's as though she has suddenly disappeared into thin air. I know no one can do anything about it, but I'm missing her so much I just felt like reaching out to people on line.

    • d_28417
      d_28417 jane14480

      Posted

      Keep reaching out Jane.  It helps to vent and it helps putting your thoughts on paper and sending it out for other's perspectives.  If you can talk with a grief counselor or group it will probably help as well.  Don't let the negativity from your sister add to your grief.  Let yourself grieve thoroughly before dealing with her, it's going to take time and that time is different for everyone.  My thoughts are with you.

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