Found out I had genital herpes on my 18th birthday

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I've only had sex with three guys in my life.. All of who I trusted and spent at least a few months with before I actually laid down with them. And about two days before my 18th I started to notice symptoms. I went to the doctor and they nocholantly told me I had herpes. I got the confirmation call about three days ago.

I can't stop crying. I feel so helpless and I felt so dirty when I had to go back and tell my past partners what I had. And you know what each of them said? "You didn't get it from me". They judge me. And I feel so alone.

I thought that after the first gential outbreak it's supposed to go away but about two weeks after i took medication it broke out again. Now I'm breaking out on my mouth. So I have gential and oral herpes at the age of 18.

Can someone please tell me how to make this situation better? Because now all I can think about is that I'll never get to have romance, a family.. I'll never get to kiss my baby sisters forehead because I'll give her herpes.. I feel so dirty and alone and I need help in suppressing the outbreaks or at least help in accepting that I have it.

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    I know how it feels and yes you do feel dirty as that is how i felt 2 months ago. There was no need to tell your partners unless you are still having sex with them. They might be a carrier and have no idea. I had sex once in two years since I became single and boom got it. Mine was very bad. I had an outbreak and had no idea what I had. Started taking mediaction and after 2 weeks all gone.  After 2 days i had another outbreak, since then In all I had 5 outbreaks. In the corners of my lips, inside my lips, inside my mouth, on m face, on my fingers, on my legs and feet plus my genitals. I even had to go to hospital as it attacked ......
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      Yeah I didn't know what was happening either.. I was still having sex with one of them and I thought it would be responsible to at least tell them. I'm so sorry that your outbreak was so bad.. I guess someone always has it worse. That's a kind of harsh way to feel better about my situation, have you done any research to prevent the severity?
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      yes i did alot of research and since two months ago I have learnt alot. But I have a weak immune system. I smoke and i drink a bit of wine. so smoking and drinking is not good. I do not have late nights out as i do not go out alot specially since I realised I have this virus. Im feeling that I can t have a partner. yes you did well telling your partners as it is only fair that he knows. 
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    the muscle of my heart. So i was pretty and badl attacked b herpes. I was very down and did not go out.  Now first ou have to see by your dr if you need to stay on medication for a longer period im taking aciclovir 800mg a day for six months Dr told me that so plse do check with dr before you take them. Now i am adding every day 4g of vitamin c, 4g of l-lysine and vitamin D3 10,000 iu a day. Now i just received olive leaf extract and im taking once a day. So plse try this always ask dr before and eat loads of fruit, like papaya, pineapple, kiwi, mango, avocados, oranges they are all high in vitamin c and u can eat  l-lsyine from lentils and beans. do not worry mine outbreaks were pretty bad now i managed to control them.
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    I just received a message from someone on this chat to contact this person so he can give me a herbal medicine, when i contacted him he asked me for 170usd. and he told me that this he will cure it for ever. I think it is a scam just for you to know.
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    re helping you with the rest Im still dealing with it myself. It is hard to accept the fact that I can no longer have sex in a relaxed way. but always have to make sure I do not have an outbreak ect. so yes i need help to in this area

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