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zoe09960
zoe09960

Hi guys it's me Zoe. Hope everyone is ok as can be.

I thought I'd update u all on the situation I wrote about.

Friends and Fibro.

So my situation has moved on with this particular friend.

You know when u feel like a walking zombie and even talking is major work for ur brain (maybe that's just me small brain lol ).

Anyway this partiicular friend was giving me a bad vibe ( u know the ones when u say what's wrong and they deny it ). As I was walking through the school gates and she turned her head and didn't say hello but barked out a question that I didn't quite catch and then they just walk. I tried to answer the question but what came out was kind of like a mumble but kinda low volume can't talk. Well off she went. So I come home with my little one. My phone bleeps. A text came through saying that I didn't need to be rude. I genuinely had no kind of tone it simply was that Fibro voice.

I have now been cut out and being ignored.

I'm now so cross. I told her all about Fibro before and did mention one or two times about that sometimes ur so tires u can hardly talk.

My little girl was friends with her kids so it's going to affect my daughter too.

I'm so fed up of people being like that. I'll explain more later but have to collect my daughter Faith..

There its out there now not stuck inside. X

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  • kaz_40
    kaz_40 zoe09960

    Posted

    Hi zoe09960  Its easier said then done I know but people like your so called friend arnt worth the time of day your energy of what bit you have and your time. If some one is a true friend, they will listen try and understand about your condition and be their for you to help support. Since I have had fibro I have lost friends or people that I thought of true friends. They simply didnt want to know where my illness was concerned. One of them when I was trying to explain to her about it changed the subject. One of my friends  I had been friends with for 34 years, she turned her back on me. It hurt me like hell as we had been through a lot togeather. But bascically it says more about them than it does us. None of it is our fault we didnt ask for this condition or want it. If friends cant be their for us than they arnt true friends. Its difficult when their are children involved.who are friends too. Just look after yourself and your daughter and dont worry about other people. life is too short to be worrying about other people. we have enough to cope with, with this horrid condition. take care  look after yourself sending you a big hugx
  • cherl450
    cherl450 zoe09960

    Posted

    Dear Zoe that's terrible people can be so cruel and can't understand and don't understand how hard fibro can be I often speak in a muddle that even my doctor has trouble making out what I say but is totally understandable ,and if this person stops her little one playing with your child then she is cruel and you really don't need friends like her in your life ,you already have enough to deal with so hold your head high hun and smile because she is not worth worriing yourself about my love and best wishes to you XXX

  • zoe09960
    zoe09960

    Posted

    Hi thank you for ur messages.

    I can't tell u how many people I have lost because of the illness. Family too. My brother and sister had never bothered to ask me how am I what is this illness like.

    I do take it personal as it makes me feel they don't give a s**t. And as u all know one of the things u have to do is look at the things that are triggering a lot o's stress. My brain can't work it out. Sometimes I feel like in from a different planet. As mad as that sounds I just don't relate to behaviour that way. But hey Ho have to get on up n keep swimming not sinking.

    I've been single for 6 yrs now and I find dating really tough. I haven't done much to be honest. Sometimes I wonder how many guys get this illness. I know it is more women that get it. It'd be so nice to b loved again. It is just my daughter and me. And my good good friends who I don't get to see much. I think I'm a bit lonely sometimes. I'm not working as I can't I don't drive. I feel stuck.

    But it could be a whole lot worse lol I know that.

    Thanks for ur care and support. I shall do the same for u guys. At the end of the day we get it don't we.

    Much love and gentle real hugs. Zoe x

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 zoe09960

      Posted

      Hi Zoe your not on your own on here. alot of us have lost family friends through this illness. Unfortunatly the only people that underatand fibro are those that have it. alot of marriages and relationships have broke up because of this illness. Its a real struggle for all those that have it. I am married but I still feel lonely and isolated at times so even when you are with some one you can still feel like that. It does hurt a great deal when people dont want to know or care what we are going through. But it says more about them than us. you just concentrate on you and your daughter, as its you 2 that are important and what counts.It is hard when you dont drive dont find it easy to get out about, take it from some one that knows. take care zoe09960 onwards upwards gentle hugs x 
    • zoe09960
      zoe09960 kaz_40

      Posted

      Thanks Kaz

      Thank you for words.

      I know u guys are right. Upwards and onwards, mine is sink or swim.

      I find I cope quite well but I do have my down days like all of us.

      It's good to talk with u guys as u know the daily battle too.

      It does help. So thank you very much.

      Zoe x

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