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I have a friend and I don't hardly drink but I don't mind others drinking its fine if that's what they want to do i just don't like to be around it cause its not fun for me. I noticed she orders wine everytime we go out. That's okay but everytime I go over for dinner my fritndd is kind of tipsy or drunk and then gets sad slurring words etc. I don't enjoy seeing her that way. Guess I got to do things during the day when there's no alcohol like breakfast and hiking. I don't want people telling me I should confront her I dont want to do that. I think she knows already I dont like it. Any positive suggestions are welcome. I think she doesn't want to do some things that dont involve alcohol so maybe she will drop me as a friend which is okay took.

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  • Misssy2
    Misssy2 Counteecullen

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    Hi..I think you already solved your issue...by doing things during the day with her (if she only drinks at night).

    Make other plans for at night.

    Distance yourself from the invites at night...say you have other plans.

    Maybe eventually she will see the distance that is being created.  You said she already knows you have shown dissappointment in this area and honestly you have to take care of you and stay away from things that bring this negativity.

    Its hard to watch someone we love be stupid, or do things that harm themselves...

    Possibly the more distance there is...there may be a change from her for the better.  If not even confronting her would not change her...She knows she has a problem..now you have to wait to see how she deals with it.

    I hope for your friendship sake..she confronts herself oneday. 

    I think you are doing what you can by focusing on day trips when she is sober.

    • Counteecullen
      Counteecullen Misssy2

      Posted

      I meant to thank you for your reply but got too busy. What saddens me is I think my friend is in the very, very early stages of forming a habit with alcohol. She has so much going for her with a career and kids. I think she kind of knows and sees I care about her as a friend so maybe it will help her. Again thanks.
  • Robin2015
    Robin2015 Counteecullen

    Posted

    yes try to avoid evenings since she drinks too much. Bes of luck. Robin
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