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2 years ago I came out of a 7 year relationship. I'd just bought a house with my ex, we were engaged. She wanted marriage, kids, a dog...etc...
It was kind of a mutual decision to end the relationship. She was set on getting married and having kids. I'm not bothered about marriage and don't want kids.
The 7 years we were together we had a good social group of friends and did a lot together with friends. We were all mid 20s, couples. Anyway when I split up with my ex, all my friends were in the process of getting married and starting families. Most of them now have 2 or more kids.
My social life with my friends has fallen apart. Some of my closest friends I barely speak to. I rarely get invited out with them and if I do it's usually family things... Like taking the kids for a day out. I'm open to this but there seems to be this thing now where I have to constantly try and arrange things such as bbqs, meals out...etc. I've been trying over and over and always seems to be me having to drive to see them and always work round their plans because of their kids.
I'm 30 years old. I wasn't happy in my last relationship because I know I don't want to have kids. Memories of socialising with friends, going in holidays, bbqs, family get togethers, days out...etc are making me feel crap. My social life has crippled. I've also said to 1 or 2 of my friends that is rather socialise without having to drink 10 pints of lager or end up in a nightclub somewhere.... Which has caused a few issues. My best mate also gave me a load of hassle when I started dating this new girl, basically telling me that I shouldn't date her and should be back with my ex (presumably so I could play happy families and end up having a kid I don't want and be in a relationship I'm not happy with)
Anyway sorry to ramble. I'm just feeling down about it. I miss how things were loads and miss seeing my friends and having a good social life. It's bothered me for the past year or so. Not sure what to do.
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