From the other side of the fence

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This is as requested by Meg. Again posted some time ago so probably not seen by the newbies.

Many of us have posted how much we appreciate our partners and the support given to us. This I hope echoes what they feel:


Give me your shoulder to cry on

I want to take your pain

If only for a while

To experience your life

to understand

Your daily battles, your fears your aspirations.

In sickness and in health we promised

Little did we know the challenges ahead

Such easy words to say when all is well

So difficult to live.

Your dignity is compromised

I hate to see it so

I struggle with your acceptance of the way your life is now

Tis hard for those who care my dear

But care I do with pride

For you are the one I married love, until death do us divide.


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  • Posted

    It must be lovely to have a boyfriend or husband. Excellent poem.

    all who have love and support its hard on your own.

    counting blessings time xx

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    • Posted

      Thank you. I do count my blessings and sometimes I worry about being on my own. On bad days I need help dressing as I can't lift my arms and certainly can't take shoes and socks off. I have osteoarthritis as well as fibro. I wrote that particular poem when I struggled with getting my head round the fibro label. I hadn't changed I was still the same person but with a name for the reason I couldn't do some things. I think we under estimate how fibro impacts on people around us too.

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    Thanks Maggers, your words really do describe the situation some of us are in. I really do feel for my partner at present, as I am just a ghost of my former self.

    Our way of living our life has been severly curtailed. I am so lucky to have such an amazing partner but I still worry about the effect this evil Sprite has on him as well as me of course.

    Cheers Meg

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    • Posted

      Laughter is the best medicine.  I have just returned from taking my elderly mother shopping. Had to laugh because I decided to try on a pair of shoes and having osteoarthritis as well I actually couldn't reach to do the shoes up so Mum had to do it for me.  I said to her "been many a year since I had to have my mother dress me".    If I didn't laugh I would cry!

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  • Posted

    Beautiful, just beautiful.

    Thank you


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