Gay/straight sex PLEASE HELP can't maintain erection and can't ejaculate

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I'm 18 years old and I am not too sure of my sexuality. However, I don't think that is relevant since my issue persists while I engage in homosexual or heterosexual intercourse.

I have had sex five times.

Once with a female, two with one male (I penetrated), and two with another male (I received).

When I watch porn I usually watch gay porn. The dominant male usually turns me on. (I imagine myself getting penetrated). I climax just fine when I masturbate.

In all the times I've had sex, I have never ejaculated. Even when I was being penetrated, I was not able to climax (this is relevant because it would rule out the possibility that I am conditioned to climax only while masturbating).

I usually get an erection while making out and spooning but I just don't feel too horny even when I am being penetrated or sucked off. I can maintain an erection sometimes but I just cannot climax. In all the 5 times I've had sex I've never been able to climax. I am not enjoying sex. I only do it because I like being in physical contact with others. Is this normal? Should I see a doctor? Please help.

Thank you

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    The most joyful thing in life what makes us happy is interaction with others, sex is the last stage when you truly want to escalate the closeness to someone. I think you are one of those individuals ( like me ) who suffer and cant reach their climax from casual sex ( I'm not gay , nor homophobic ) you need to feel connected to the person , attraction is simply a fetish, I guarantee you will climax when you have sex with the person you genuinely love and care for greatly. Theres nothinh wrong wwith that. I punish myself s a hetrosexual for being so darn sensitive more than women, but I love sex with meaning and feelings and substance, when that happens ive found I climax too soon and feel incompetent , solely because I have so much luv and am passionate about it, youll find that person, in the meantime I just use Viagra if I know it will be sex with no attachment , after my first climax , its just a job Viagra serves me. Cheers

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      Thanks a lot for your answer! It's frustrating for me because my partner always climaxes (even more than once) while I don't. Where do you get your Viagra from? Doesn't it need a prescription from a doctor? I went to see a doctor about this but they wouldn't give me anything because I'm too young. 


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    sex shops sell em, I wouldn't advise the internet

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    Hey Sam, 

    It is normal, everyone has there own like facing to sex. 

    At least when you have your sex behavior, no matter climax or not, if you feel satisfied? if so, then keep on doing what you enjoying on. 

    Sex is mainly for get satisfaction, so no matter what kind of sexuality or sex behavior, the most important is YOU ARE HAPPY!

    I do not think it is necessary to see a doctor on this case, but if you feel it confused you or if you cannot get any satisfaction by sexing, then go to chat with a sexual health adviser will be good for you. 

    Keep happy and enjoy your life. 



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