General anxiety triggers

Oh yes, I can have something minor like the way somebody say something and stay in bed 3 days, not do anything or able to function...

I'm sorry you feel like this too but also glad I'm not the only one... I just dragged myself out of bed to see if anyone had replied...thank you so much. (to make matters worse it was my therapist who said the horrible thing... clearly even she hates me) 

Hi Louise obviously your therapist isn't being professional or perhaps she said something you didn't want to hear l don't know however l am sure she doesn't hate you.People with anxiety tend to overthink things and it is up you now to practice letting it go.You can't control what they say to you however you have to work on how you react to it.Instead of lying down and thinking you must keep your mind occupied.Distract yourself and if you think about it just say to yourself so what.Keep going and if you need to get a new therapist.

an argument with someone is one of my main triggers for anxiety, exactly like you I can't eat and feel constantly sick until it is resolved with that person. 

It does get better with time, give it a few days then try and get in contact with the person, I always think having some time to process what actually happens can really help x

Hello Louise,

I am sorry to hear that you are in a distressed situation.Whilst it may not bring comfort, how you are feeling can be a natural reaction to a stressful situation. You mention that the feelings you are experiencing are 'way out of proportion to what happened', here may lie the root of your problem. I often ruminate on small problems until they become consuming. I believe the term is catastrophizing  where we end up thinking much worse situation than are real. Falling out with someone often leaves us with a lot of "what ifs", "why did i/they say that", "why did/didn't I say", here you hopefully can relate to your situation ( I apologise if I am off the mark). Looking at who was right or wrong is irrelevant to the more important question of "Is this person going to be a loss to my life?", look not at how bad you feel, look instead at why falling out with this person has had such a profound effect on you. Maybe you feel bad because you might have been in the wrong, or equally, you feel hurt because this person has done/said things that you never expected. To sum up my ramblings, how you feel may actually be proportionate to the situation, it really depends on the strength of your feelings towards this other person.

I hope that the situation resolves to give you peace

Regards 

David