Genital herpes causing excruciating pain, help!

update: but ive got around 70 blisters now all over not just on the labia, every time i pee i could climb the walls im in that much! ive been on antivirals for 4 days and noticed the blisters 6 days ago and i feel like it just keeps on getting worse not better theyve also got a lot more red, im just in need of desperate advice

ok, so firstly, just breathe... your life is definitely not over! I know it might feel like that right now but its far from the truth.

I was diagnosed with HPV last year, the warts kind not the cancer kind. While i can't understand the physical pain you are going through, I understand the mental turmoil of finding out you have an STI that isn't curable.

Having lived with my condition for over a year i can tell you, things will get better and things will get easier.

Ive found that when people say their life is over, their referencing their love life, which just isn't true. Since my diagnosis I've found the love of my life, someone who saw past my diagnosis and loves me for who i am.

Honesty, communication and being kind will get you a long way, and that's in both directions of the relationship.

Disclosure is hard but not even slightly as devastating as you will be thinking it is at this point in time.

Bunker down fir a little bit, get your thoughts in order and i promise you'll be fine.

I believe in you and as much as a stranger on the internet can be, I'm gonna be proud or the person you become because of this.

Can i ask if you are any better?

I have the same issues right now and the pain is too much to bear.

I also feel bruised and battered down there and very swollen.

It sounds and looks like you have a bacterial or fungal infection on top of having a pretty bad outbreak. The extreme pain might be from a fungal or bacterial infection or STI. Herpes alone isn't excruciatingly painful IMO but you could have a bad STI and Syphilis, so be sure to get tested ASAP. As for herpes, the first outbreak is the worst and it's possible you'll get less outbreaks over time. I've had it for almost 20 years (since I was 16 y/o) and for a while I was getting around one outbreak a year and now I don't get outbreaks any more. My first outbreak was the worst but still mild and the others were single sores or a tear in the skin between my vagina and anus that lasted about a week. Also, I've never taken medication for it.

There's no telling how the virus will present itself but statics in America show that 1 in 5 people have genital herpes and that's just from reported cases. Your life is not over and you're going to be just fine. Hope you've gotten some answers by now and you're feeling some relief and healing.

get on valcyclovir until outbreak goes away. start taking supplements that can boost immune system. vitamin c, zinc & can start taking lysine works for me but if you atop lysine it can trigger it to come back. the first outbreak is the worst

hi everyone, thanks for all your kind words and wisdom! finally all the sores are gone, i did go to my GP, they didnt swab but i had a blood test that came back negative so now im slightly confused as he was sure it looked like herpes! im still continuing to take the antivirals just in case as im petrified of another outbreak if the results were incorrect, i felt like my life was over but now after reading all these forums and getting advice from lovely strangers on the internet like you i now understand that its not and even if i do have herpes its not the end of the world and a virus doesnt define anyone and its not dirty or disgusting ❤

super late! but this was kinda how my second outbreak looked and was it painful! what really helped me was literally using numbing cream meant for tattoos.

currently going through my second now with no numbing cream and everything ((even femiclear)) burns. my only source if comfort is soaking in epson salt with peppermint and a second soak with white vinager and baking soda. the only cream that gives me comfort for about 45mins is vagisil.

if it burns to pee make sure you are pouring warm water over your genitals as you pee! it will lessen the pain significantly!

start taking B-complex and L-Lystine vitamins too. people witbh HSV can take up to 3,000 mgs of L-Lystine daily.

and just been super aware of any warning signs of a future outbreak so you can get on antivirals right away

wow. i was diagnosed a month ago, i still can't get my head around it. i was married to my wife for 13 years..... whatever.

but i also feel pain in the shower and after shower. stings like hell. sorry .