Genital Herpes : emotional, questions, pain

Hi Emily! Don't worry honey. Genital herpes is so common. I have it too! HSV1 G. Actually, I was just diagnosed recently and I was taking it pretty difficult at first but it's been easier with the support of forums like this and good information on the internet and doctors, of course. 

Herpes is extremely common, as I said above. Most people have HSV 1. Remember those cold sores you'd get every now and then on your lip? That's technically HSV 1 herpes also. Genital herpes is just more "looked down upon" or "mocked" in society because it's on the genital area. Don't let mainstream media, society, friends, boyfriends, men, family, etc. bring you down. It's a skin condition and it is COMMON. I have it, the girl you walked by on the street today most likely has it and guess what? Most people don't even KNOW. We just happen to so we're in complete shock and in "utter disgust" because we think we're the only ones who have it. Nah... so many people don't even get treated and tested for herpes. That's exactly how the both of us unfortunately got it also. 

It's very good that we're getting treated. Keep taking the medication, (use cream if the doctor prescribed you some) on the effected areas and if you feel an outbreak coming, take your pills right away and try not to stress. Stress can cause the outbreaks to flare up. I know it's hard to "not stress" with the pressures of society, friends, family, school, etc. but don't stress about your genital herpes. It will be okay - I promise. Also, if you look online - you can find great ways to help prevent an outbreaks such as epsom bath salts and a good healthy diet during an outbreak and to avoid an outbreak. 

As for a sex life, if your current partner does not understand that you have genital herpes and you are treating it, being honest with him, and doing everything you can to have a healthy sexual relationship with him.... it is difficult to say I know but he is not worth your time. Because I mean, he most likely GAVE it to you. Tell him to get tested since you're being tested and treated. It is only fair to keep that relationship healthy and going. 

If it doesn't work out, there will be many good and honest people who fortunately will understand. Herpes isn't the end of your love life and sex life. Just don't have sex during an outbreak, take your medicine, put on the cream if needed and prescribed, use condoms, be open and honest with partners you plan to be intimate with and everything will be fine. Also, woman to man transmission is not as strong as man to woman... apparently what I've been reading up about online. I'm here for you! I have it! So does MILLIONS. Remember: it's the most common STF. Stay strong!! We got your back.