Genital Herpes: Is kissing okay?
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Okay so I was recently diagnsoed with Genital Herpes a little over a month ago. I have talked to doctor about things and how to cope with how I've been feeling but I still haven't gotten clear answers on what I really wanted to know. I am now in a same sex relationship with another girl and I'm really just trying to figure all of this out. I've told her and she's willing to be supportive I just don't want to spread it to her in any way. Is kissing her even when i haven't had an outbreak in a month wrong? Should we hold off. How likely is she to get it if we don't use gloves while she penetrates me with her fingers? We know the use of dildos and vibrators are always options but I just want to feel her touch sometimes and I feel like now that possibility is gone. Help would be fantastic. Thank you.
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FelizCastus Volleyball45
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As for unprotected fingering, which HSV type do you have? Has your gf ever been tested for it? If she has had oral HSV-1 previously, even if only as a child, and you have genital HSV-1, then that should be fine.
If she hasn't, there's a chance of her acquiring the virus on her fingers (HSV-1 is a little less picky about body parts). HSV-2 nearly always prefers the genitals, so this should be far less likely.
Prodromes and outbreaks should be avoided, plus unprotected fingering with broken skin on the fingers. If you are on daily suppressive antivirals (usually only for HSV-2), then the transmission risk will be reduced further. Hope this helps!
Volleyball45 FelizCastus
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FelizCastus Volleyball45
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Yep, just continue to avoid outbreaks (including any initial prodrome), take antiviral meds (daily suppressive therapy), and no unprotected fingering with broken/torn skin like hangnails. This applies to you as well regarding touching yourself, in particular lesions (self-infection to other body parts is possible until you have enough antibodies, usually in 3-4 months). Practice common sense hygiene, like handwashing afterwards.
Btw, if this is a newly acquired infection for you, and not an old infection, you should note that you are more infectious during the first several months, so antiviral meds are especially important since you are in a presumed discordant relationship, with your gf likely having no partial immunity to any HSV type. You can shed and be infectious even in the absence of an outbreak (HSV-2 is worse for asymptomatic shedding).
Anyway, HSV type is important to know (very different implications), so I hope your doctor didn't just take a look and visually diagnose you with GH, then leave it at that, lol. Here for other questions, and take care!
FelizCastus
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http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4084907/