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GF just told me she has hsv2 genital

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matt48719
matt48719

Hello everyone. My gf of five months just found out she has hsv2. Of course I was shocked at first but I Love her very much and want to stay with her and support her. She is taking it hard naturally and isn't confiding in anyone else So I need to be her support. I've told her that we will work through it and she knows that I am not judging her or looking at her any different. What can i do to help her? I've told her she will learn to manage it and it won't ever come between us. Do I just give her time and space to accept this is now part of her life? Thanks for reading.

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  • Nkosy1
    Nkosy1 matt48719

    Posted

    Giving her time or space may be interpreted as rejection to her.Now it's time she needs you the most so I would advise to be close to her but for help and information on alternative.Go with her MP for other check up and continue of treatment.That could help her to cope with the currently situation

    Thank you

  • katie42587
    katie42587 matt48719

    Posted

    I remember the first month of diagnosis was horrendous, I cried multiple times a day due to the pain and also the emotional impact of finding out you have a lifelong STD. 

    Me and my partner were in the middle of moving house when I found out so we were extremely busy but the greatest support I found was him just holding me and listening when I was upset. Also just the little things like him taking over with cooking for a while or popping out and bringing me home a bottle of wine or bar of chocolate. 

    The fact that you have even joined a forum to ask this question shows how supportive you are. 

    You could browse the other discussions for some recommendations for pain relief etc which would show you are there for her and doing your best to help smile 

  • nayeon10409
    nayeon10409 matt48719

    Posted

    First of all, I commend you for being an amazing partner and comforting her, just her knowing that she'll have you to lean on through this is absolutely amazing.

    It will take time for her to accept this new thing so you being able to be there for her and accept what it is will give her support.

    You're doing the right thing from where I stand but make sure you ask her what she wants, what you can do to help her.

    In my perspective, you're doing an incredibly amazing job so far!

  • haz83342
    haz83342 matt48719

    Posted

    Ofcourse i appreciate your humanly emotional aspects. 

    But the logic points will rise also

    Do you have genital herpes also?

    Or she had other partner?!

    You are great that you accept that mostly you will be a herpes patient on purpose as you know transmission rate is high. 

    You should know how to try avoid contracting herpes from her and i suggest doing Ig G test now to be sure that you are still free. 

    • matt48719
      matt48719 haz83342

      Posted

      I'm free as far as I know. That is a whole separate discussion, I'm just wanting to help her through these difficult times.

      It's not easy to volunteer yourself to the virus, it's nothing I want that's for sure. However she is nothing I want to lose, so it's a risk I'll take as we continue our relationship.

      Thanks for your help.

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