Girlfriend Has Genital HSV-1 STD
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My new girlfriend informed me she was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 when she was sixteen. She had two flare ups and then it never appeared again. I’ve experienced one cold sore in my life (orally) when I was around that age, and it never appeared again either. My girlfriend before this constantly had HSV-1 oral flare ups, but I never developed them myself despite their fairly frequent appearances on her. What does this mean for our limitations as a couple? I’ve read in some places that if you have oral HSV-1, you can’t contract genital HSV-1 because the virus only nests in one location. Will I get sores if I have vaginal sex with her, protected or unprotected? What happens if we have oral sex? I’m having a hard time making sense of the information I’ve found online.
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sounhappy
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1 & 2 Beings that we have been together at that time making it 19 years & we really don't know who gave it to
who. Neither of us know we had it until his 1st out break & he didn't hide it we choose to work it out. I learning as well as you & just as confused but the best advice that i see & for myself speaking only as a female have
Only had to outbreaks the first major one which was the worst. & this year which was not so bad but for me i
Will not have sex with him while having an outbreak for me 1-it's just nasty I feel sexy & enjoy him when I'm
having an outbreak. & 2 it's just simply painful. 3 i'm afraid i'll cause him to have an outbreak. He's not happy with having to wait but he's patient. He's outbreak was nothing like mine. But still personally I won't I would
Wait until she clears up. I'm sure if there is a big difference between HSV-1 & HSV-2. Because as I said I'm
new to this as well. But places to come to and ask questions truly does help me cope. I wait until i'm clear but
that's just me. I don't know if that helped but could only speak of what i've experienced & what I do. I wish you
lauren74052
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I wouldn't worry. Just don't have sex if you have sores.
Kaity Concerned_Boyfriend
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This website has been the most informative and supportive place I've found online. It provides you with statistics around risk, personal experiences and straight, trustworthy facts about the virus. HSV, whether it's type 1 or 2, isn't the end of the world. I can't give you much information personally, because when I was looking at the site I was focused on HSV2, but I can say that HSV1 tends to be milder and less frequent, and while it can affect the genital area if the genitals were exposed to a cold sore on someone else, it typically makes it's visits around the mouth. My mum has HSV1. She won't kiss my dad or get to close to my little brothers when she has a cold sore, because they are contagious when they appear on the skin, but she's had a full, healthy relationship with my dad for...20 something years now and he's never caught it. So basically, a good rule of thumb is to just avoid direct contact with the area where she gets the sores while she has an outbreak. Most people can feel when they're about to get one, and she seems to be being quite open about it so I'm sure she'll let you know when it's not a good time to kiss her or for her to go down on you.
http://herpeslife.com/
smokeblunts420 Concerned_Boyfriend
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I have recently been diagnosed with herpes simplex virus one on my genitals. My boyfriend always had cold sores on his lips and now he has it on genitals too. Your body doesn't just fight it off. You can get it in both oral and genitals. He performed oral sex on me and gave me the virus, we had intercourse so I gave it right back. Its effected me worse as I am a girl. Either way you should both be taking medications for oral herpes. My boyfriend had no sore present, there is a such thing as "shedding" the virus.
Kstarr Concerned_Boyfriend
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Hi. I recently went to the doctor and tested positive for herpes.. However, she said that my antibody count was so high that she couldn't tell if I had simplex one or two so I have to wait until I had an outbreak so she could swab it. I know simplex one is like cold sores but what would it look like on my vagina? Would it cause a blister just like simplex two?
lauren26535 Kstarr
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HSV 1 and HSV 2 look the same on your genitals. They first appear as red bumps (could be confused with razor burn) in and around your vagina. Then they turn white/yellowish/clear on top and weep for a few days. If you keep them dry and don't touch them, they'll eventually scab over and go away.
Kstarr lauren26535
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Laurabe Kstarr
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You can get a blood test done as well. Swab tests are known to have many false negatives if a sore is dried up. This actually just happened to me last week, so I got a blood test and am waiting on the results.
Yes, it's still herpes, so it is a std. It's really just a skin infection in the end, so don't let it freak you out!
Kels555 Concerned_Boyfriend
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Livelife Concerned_Boyfriend
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You already have it you can't catch it again
Looking4Help Concerned_Boyfriend
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I do not have any form of oral or genital herpres, but I have recently entered a relationship with a girl that has genital HSV-1. She has been honest with me about it from the beginning. This is my first relationship with someone that has any variation of this infection (that I know of), so I admittedly am not well informed about it, but am making a serious effort to educate myself about it. I want to be able to support her and also understand the risks that I am now vulnerable to. Unfortunately, we have refrained from genital sexual activity thus far, mostly because I wanted to get a better understanding of our situation and the best ways to proceed. Other than avoiding sex during an outbreak, or all together, and always using a latex condom during non-outbreak episodes, are there other options or things that we should know or consider to help reduce the risk of contraction on my end? Our relationship has promise, I would like to see where it goes and me better understanding this will go a long way towards helping with that. Is it possible to maintain a longterm relationship with someone infected without contracting it myself or is it a gaurantee that over time I will most likely contract it the more times we are sexually active? I don't mean to be selfish or insensitive, but I don't want to contract this. I suppose I am trying to gain a better understanding on the reality of the virus and how to responsibly interact with it and her. We don't have any support groups where we live and have discussed going to a doctor together to see if they might have more information for how to proceed as a couple. Any insight or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Livelife Looking4Help
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I mean as long as she's taking her antiviral and wearing a condom it's like 1% risk
But it may sound silly but hsv1 is the exact same as the cold sore virus so why don't you just perform oral because you'll probably catch it on your mouth because that's where it most likes to live anyway and then just deal with one or two cold sores every year or so? Which millions of people have anyway and thus protecting you from genital hsv1 and that's not just from her but if your relationship doesn't work least you won't have to worry about getting it genital? No one judges cold sores
mindy64033 Concerned_Boyfriend
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I get cold sores every once in a while. But my girlfriend (lesbian) says I gave her hsv2. I have never had genital herpies. And I didn't think you could contact hsv2 from a cold sore. Now I'm thinking that the father of her child has been cheating and gave it to her. I'm am waiting on blood work. Just need to understand how I could have given her hsv2
Lexi2369 mindy64033
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