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I'm a private guy and this is my last resort! I've been with my girlfriend since June last year - we are both 40 next month - I love her too bits without question and outside work this is the first time I've been exposed to mental health issues ( I hate the phrase mental health as it purports a negative stigma). When we got together very early on my partner told me she suffered with bipolar - I'm a level headed guy so I took it upon myself too research the condition from various sources to get as much information as I could. I can now see the manic and depressive triggers - I've tried all the support mechanisms I have read about - being supportive, being understanding, giving space and not pressuring, being over concerned, arguing back and being assertive (which I hate). When we are good we are good but far too frequently I receive negative comments, more often personal and insulting comments, all the time I get told stories of her past life and relationships which I'm told were so fantastic, I constantly get told her life now (which I take to be the life with me) is so boring and rubbish - I was sat on the sofa 2 days ago and we were talking about going on our first holiday together in May and then my girlfriend descended into a calm but hurtful rhetoric of how she would ignore me if I wore the shorts and t-shirts that I own - how she would not talk too me if I used the goggles I use in the pool at the gym whilst on holiday - small insignificant things but after so much insults over the last few months - I started to cry! What took the biscuit is on the 18th Feb my daughter from my previous marriage would have been 4 years old! I mentioned this just in passing on the 19th Feb whilst we were watching telly as a similar subject came up on the programme and my partner acknowledged what I had said (she new about it from early doors) and then immediately started taking about her abortion 12 years ago which was her choice to have as her relationship at that time was going nowhere which I also new about. Yesterday we were fine - really good, tonight I'm getting a barrage of txts saying we are over, she can't see me or talk too me - I'm thinking she is in a depressive cycle and this has happened before on 3 or 4 occasions - I love this girl so much but I'm needing help as too what if anything I can do more to help - any comments really much appreciated!
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