Girlfriend of 3 years broke up with me, I have no other friends left.

Don't say you can't because you can move on. You need time to get yourself some help before you find another girlfriend. Take time to cry everything out this is part of the hurting process and find yourself some help before you jump into another relationship. You need to find out who you are and learn to love yourself first before having a mate or friends 

Things will fall into place so take it one day at the time 

Elizabeth

Well first thing- a reality check is needed. You can't say she doesn't care- you treated her badly and she behaved as anyone would. So be fair about that. Next, anxiety is often a reason for people to behave badly - but it's not an excuse for it. If she's done, then shes done - accept that and move on. No it won't be easy, but you can't expect her to take you back, noone would.

You need to learn to love yourself before you can expect to be in any sort of healthy relationship. The same thing happened to me, my depression ruined my relationship, and as a result i lost the love of my life. I regret it every single day, the depression turned me into a monster, something that was not me. 

Take time to yourself, and remember what makes you, you. When you've been in a relationship for so long, you can sometimes (well i did) forget what makes you special and what makes you very happy. You have spent such a long time with a person, that your sense of identity has been blurred. 

Take this time to grieve your loss, but then focus on yourself. Take up some new hobbies, do some exercise, socialise even though i know its hard. Learn how to be happy on your own, because if you cant stand on your own two feet, then any relationship you do have will be based on you relying on your partner to make you feel happy. When actually you should be happy in your self, easier said than done i know!

Be kind to yourself, you are going through a relaly tough patch, dont blame yourself for anything. Things happen for a reason, and so maybe this was the path your life was meant to takem even though it is pretty sh*tty. When my relationship broke down i tried committing suicide mutliple times and totally gave up on life. But after watching my elderly grand father cry at seeing me in a hospital bed after an oversode, i made a pact to myself that i would fight this.

You can fight this, and you will. Life is for living, not for existing. Make the most of what you have and love what you have. Its rubbish that your girlfriend left you and i am so sorry for that, but you have more chance of winning her back if you can show her what she's missing - by being the gorgeous fun guy i am sure you are capable of being. 

Take care and i wish you all the best, stay strong and stay safe. 

Losing someone you love & have invested a lot of time in is always gonna be hard. 

I know it's easy to feel like you can't cope without them but this is something that will pass with time. I've been through my fair share of heartbreak & it can leave you feeling so lost & hopeless but there is so much more to life than that 1 individual.

Use this time to put yourself first & focus on your own happiness independent of her.

We all say things we don't mean or mistreat people we care about at times, no-one is pefect & you shouldn't be made to feel like you're a bad person for it. 

Most of us on here understand, disregard the ones that don't.

Take care 

Hello John,

I've had the same problem, I may be months late on this response but I was I were there with you on that journey... to help you guide you, through your pain... I still struggling with anxiety and a bit of depression but I'm almost on the 1 year mark the day my Ex left me... it still upsets me I still cry sometimes, but it gets better with every tear, scream, and day. I used everything she taught me to get to where I am, and I'm a complete different person, "kind" all sense of the word. A person for her? Maybe. Do I wish she would come back? Maybe. With out her I am now a better person then she can ever believe in. And I'm sure you're becoming great yourself, that's just the way life is... its cruel but you make something beautiful out of it, everyday is a blessing! Cheers!

Hello, 

I understand exactly where you are coming from. I recently had a bad ending to my relationship of 3 years with my girlfriend. She was my backbone, and now without her I have unbearable sad, torn, lost, & lonely feelings every day.. I also have no friends because I lost them all over the years. I feel like I don’t belong here because I can’t seem to make real friendships where they actually want to hang out with me.. People look at me as crazy, weird, whatever. Its a horrible feeling not being able to have anything socially workout knowing that we humans are social creatures. All of this makes it extremely difficult for me to have motivation at my job day in and day out. This talk about “learning to loving myself/be happy by myself/happiness from within” I wish I could learn this because I do look myself in the mirror at the end of everyday and say I gave it my 110% effort, but I’m still miserable with life. I guess I just continue to get back up on the horse...