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I've been dating a girl for a little over a year and within the last few months she has developed some anxiety problems. She says she has a hard time staying at places besides her apartment, which is beginning to be a problem since we live seperately and I am always going over there. This morning we were talking about it and she said that she needs her stuff, i.e. "what if i get cold and i need my blanket?". After she said that I laughed, I didn't mean to and I know it was the wrong thing to do but it's not like I don't have blankets at my place. She says she is stressed but we're both college students and her parents pay her rent and car payments and right now since it's summer she is only working at restaurant. I don't really know what she has to be stressed about.
Also she says she gets anxiety when she is hanging out with friends and stuff, but she does that multiple times a week, so I can't really tell if that's true. Part of me thinks she just doesn't want to come over to my place.
The reason I'm having a hard time understanding is I am currently paying two rents, working an unpaid internship and working a job at night with no support from my parents. Also I am a combat veteran who was diagnosed with PTSD when I got back from Afghanistan in 2011. I had a lot of problems coming home (couldn't drive, go to college classes, check out a grocery stores), but I overcame those problems and my stressors were more significant than hers by a long shot.
I know that every person is different and that her stress and anxiety affect her in the same way that my PTSD affected me, but it is hard to not tivialize her problems.
Can someone help me understand and offer any advice on how to help her?
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