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Girlfriend withdrawal from Prozac...Relationship dead

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Hello

I am at a lost for what to do so coming here for some advice.

My Girlfriend was on Prozac for over a year and in the summer suddenly stopped. Before that she was very happy and we were very close and we had big plans for the future and what steps we wanted to take next. 

Now 3 months later we have split up. Pretty soon after coming off the meds she said she wanted to slow things down and then she started getting massive mood swings with big lows. She asked for us to spend a week apart just over a month ago which after a few days she said she wanted me to come back. She then continued to have ups and downs. All the time she kept on trying to fix the little habits that she didn't like in me. 

The other week we were on holiday with her family and she suddenly decided that she saw no future and she wanted to split up immediately. I have had to move out of our home now and I hate it. I looked up for if the prozac withdrawal could be the cause and found some evidence to suggest it could be. I tried to explain it to her but she won't but that thats the reason. I am at a loss!

Could it be the case?

She is now back on the prozac and i worry that thigns are starting to seem better again then she might not think its the tablets that caused the problem but us. 

Thanks in advance. 

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  • jackie82937
    jackie82937 JPS02160

    Posted

    Believe me when I say that all sounds completely normal for Depression

    Sudden references to splitting up, separating and Divorce are all normal, sadly!

    I've come off anti d's myself not the best way to do it.

  • gillian20097
    gillian20097 JPS02160

    Posted

    Maybe she withdrew to quickly or maybe she wasn't ready to come off them yet. 

    I know when I came off Citalopram years ago the withdrawal was horrendous for everybody else to watch and even though physically I looked like I was a nervous wreck...it didn't faze me because mentally I was strong.

    I do know that for a while I wanted time out...Just to be by myself,learn to enjoy my own company and the security of knowing I was ok alone.

    I think if your girlfriends mood has sunk then she has done the right thing going back on her meds.

    Just give her the time and space she needs. She obviously has things she needs to figure out and feels the need to do this on her own.

    I went through a stage with my depression/anxiety where I was questioning my love for my partner at the time. I knew I loved him but anxiety does have a habit of throwing a spanner in the works with most parts of our lives and my anxious thoughts focused on if my relationship was making me happy.

    Deep down I knew I loved him but that's the confusion that happens with mental illness.

    She is very lucky to have you and you are lovely to be concerned Hun. Just give her time xxx

    • JPS02160
      JPS02160 gillian20097

      Posted

      Thanks.

      It's horrible to think where we have come from to where we are now. 

      I do worry that she doesn't realise how the anti depressents have effected her and won't realise how it has possibly messed her up now and could do in the future. I want to help her realise this for my own benfit and also hers. 

      I do worry I'm also seeing the withdrawal as the issue when it could be something else that I maybe didn't pick up on in our relationship. I just struggle to see what else could have caused the change. 

      I will try to give her as much space as possible. It's just tricky when shes trying to get most of my stuff out of our house :s

  • linda83143l
    linda83143l JPS02160

    Posted

    Prozac is a very addictive drug, withdrawal should be slow.

    I personally feel that if she gets back on an even keel there is hope for your relationship.

    She needs to see her gp as the dose may be too strong for her now, she needs to build up the dose slowly until she gets to the dose she should be on now.

    To take a high dose now could be dangerous esp

    when she has been taking none

    Hope this helps xxx

    • JPS02160
      JPS02160 linda83143l

      Posted

      Thanks

      I worry that she may feel that she feels better because were not together and not because of the prozac? 

      She's was and is on quite a low dosage so hopefully shouldn't be a problem going back on. she never really showed any side effects of being on the anti Ds when she was on them

    • gillian20097
      gillian20097 JPS02160

      Posted

      I don't think that will happen. From past experience I just needed a bit of space and that space confirmed to me that I loved my partner,missed him and wanted to be with him xx
    • JPS02160
      JPS02160 gillian20097

      Posted

      Things haven't improved much. It's messing me up so much inside.

      Shes desperate to become independent and sort herslef out (although i still don't think she realises the effect the prozac has or can have.)

      She is cutting ties left right and centre...For example, telling our landlords im not living there any more. 

      I dont know what to do! sad

    • jackie82937
      jackie82937 JPS02160

      Posted

      It sounds like she needs medical help.  The problem is people think they have to battle this on their own.  Common things to hear are I don't need anyone's help, there is nothing wrong with me and I can do this on my own.

      My husband is still trying to solve his issues on his own he left 14 months ago tomorrow and is on no meds or is he getting any help, he is now also self medicating on alchol for his anxiety attacks.

      Withdrawal of any meds is hard, I tried coming off seroxat in a week, I was a crumbling reck and lost a stone in a week, withdrawal takes time and should not be done quickly and should be done so under the Doctor. 

       

  • Taajsgpm
    Taajsgpm JPS02160

    Posted

    I would suggest looking for expert advice like a Prozac specialist. It seems pretty sure that when on it thinghs are great and when noot your in a terrible position, good luck , it s s tough spot
  • gillian20097
    gillian20097 JPS02160

    Posted

    I have to say I've done the same in the past. It was like I had to prove something. Not to anybody else but to myself. Thing is I did prove something. I got well and was stronger than ever but I also had no friends left because I'd pushed them all away.

    So here I was all confident and ready to face the world but had nobody to share this new found happiness with.

    This episode I've kept my family and friends round me and clung on to them with everything I have. I'm not losing them again. I will come through this and be happier than ever before because now I have people there who love me and who I love back.

    Maybe it's because I'm older now but I dint feel the need anymore to show everybody how string I am. I've learned that it's ok to be vulnerable and it's ok to ask for help xx

  • paul75690
    paul75690 JPS02160

    Posted

    Hi pal. Only

    Just stumbled upon this. I am

    Currently

    Going through similar. Me and my girlfriend of 2 year are broke up just. We were so happy and she adores me and everyone is shocked at this. It's totally out of carachter. It all coincided with her suddenly stopping fluoxetine after running out and started on her mums citalopram!! Then stopped that and is now back on fluoxetine. When she stopped taking them and swapped meds she went downhill and said she didn't feel herself and her head was in a bad place etc and needed space to get right in herself and so on. How did all this turn out for you? Did you get sorted. I am just lost at the min and she's shutting me out. Although I know she loves me as I have had random noce texts. It's so strange

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