Giving up on love
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I'm feeling it is hopeless to find someone who will be accepting of my GH. I want to find love, but I don't want to risk being hurt thru rejection. Anyone have any advice or experiences they want to share on this subject?
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Guest Sing4TheKing
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hope4cure Sing4TheKing
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u have UR health UR whole future. UR not near the end of life come on have faith in irself. Remember one in six have H between 14 and 49 . So what r u waiting for?
When u least expect it it someone will dog smack u in the face and heart. In the mean time TC and live and be successful.
sunshine44960 Sing4TheKing
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Why do you have to give up on something so special like love because you have GH?
I'm not saying having herpes is nothing but it doesn't have to define your life or limit you living life to the fullest. Have you come to terms with having herpes? If you haven't then you are not ready to go out there and if you do when you are not ready then you will only transmit to any potential partner your fear and consequently they will be afraid too and wouldn't want to be with you.
When you come to terms with having herpes then you arm yourself psychological for any outcome. Actually it's like any encounter herpes or no herpes. There is always a 50-50 % of being accepted or rejected. I know it's a bit different when you have a disease but you have to look at it from a positive point of view: you have a finer filter and you will filter off those who are closed minded.
When you meet the right woman she will see past the herpes to the person you really are and that is really what matters.
The weapon you really have to develop at this stage is to prepare yourself for rejection and not take it too personally cause it will only poison your life and stop you from looking for you. Just live your life
Sing4TheKing sunshine44960
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hope4cure sunshine44960
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Sing4TheKing sunshine44960
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sunshine44960 Sing4TheKing
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I'm really sorry to hear you have been through a rejection, that hurts I concord.
It's the right thing to tell any potential partner about your situation and you will not have that on your conscience if you don't.
I might be wrong but in my opinion love is unconditional and if a person truely loves you they will get past illnesses, financial situations or whatever. Well maybe I'll think differently if I didn't have herpes but the fact is being sick shouldn't be the determining factor to be with someone. I know, no one is comfortable with having herpes nor any disease for that matter, we just get all the information we need to make sure the disease doesn't have a major impact on our life.
You have to "get up" again for there is a man out there just for you
hope4cure sunshine44960
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CHEERS
Sing4TheKing sunshine44960
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Don't worry bout the mix up. You are most definitely pardoned
I always feel like a bunny in the bushes when it comes to telling a partner. I fear I need to hide, but then I feel them getting closer, so I dart out and end up getting shot down. I just don't want to get so close that it becomes too close, and I have this problem with not letting the thought go from my mind until the disclosure is over. It eats at me and becomes an ongoing thought that haunts me til the moment it is disclosed. I have it going round and round in my head and can't seem to focus on anything else. I felt, this time that instead of letting it gnaw at me and torture me, I needed to tell him. After all, things were getting very heated and he was beginning to feel rejected himself...not understanding why.
Anyway, I will try with all my might to get over this rejection. I know one day I will stand up and brush myself off. Not so sure how soon I'll get out there and look. I may just wait for someone to come to me. I've heard when you stop looking, that's when they come to you.
sunshine44960 hope4cure
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Keep it up
gijane Sing4TheKing
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Populargrl75 Sing4TheKing
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I met my current bf on an online dating site (okcupid) once it seemed things were getting serious we shared with each other how we contracted the virus from a previous relationship. It was completely meant to be. Our relationship is not only normal but Way beyond that (I have found my soulmate). We still have an intimate relationship and don't have to worry about infecting the other person.
You will find someone and not let the virus ruin your life. There are also dating sites for people who have been infected.
Hope this helps. Good luck.