grandmother with dementia
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My grandmother is 82 years old and after a spell of pneumonia she has gotten worse every day. She is bedridden. Now when I go visit her she doesn't even know I'm there doesn't even make eye contact or hold my hand. It is very sad to see her decline so very rapidly. I am not sure if she knows I'm there but is unable to communicate with me. It seems like she's in another world can't speak or doesn't even seem like she hears me when I talk to her. Has anyone else had similar dealings with their loved ones?
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loretta89480 Terry_W
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Terry believe me your grandmother knows you are there. It may not seem like it but you should try to rub her arm gently. Run your hand over hair. Keep talking to her. She does know you snd knows when you visit. So please do visit, a touch a kiss on the cheek. I know she knows when you visit. I've been in a worse position and I knew my husband knew I visited him daily. Don't force your grandmother to get out of bed, encourage her.
I feel you. Take care
Loretta
sharon07214 Terry_W
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What I am trying to say is YES, YES, they know you are there. I was the fortunate one to witness these rare brief ‘communicative moments’ because I was able to be there continuously...having taken early retirement. As the person previously responded...touch, music, keep talking to her with reassuring words, family news etc. She can hear...it is the last sense to go. So even if she can’t communicate to you at all she is reassured by your presence, touch and voice. Keep on loving her while you can. Lots of love and prayers. Xx
sharon07214 Terry_W
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borderriever Terry_W
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My Father had this illness and was unable to relate with people around Him. He eventually died with a pulmonary embolism.
I looked after an Aunt with this dementia, the husband had been very good hiding the problem and when He died everything came out and I looked after Her representation in a Nursing home. Both family members lacked understanding in a way and Nursing homes needed to be able to deal with dementia patients and were very expensive, and sad to say some homes seemed questionable.
What you are seeing is all very sad and I feel for you.
When you visit talk to Her, you may find although lacking understanding she may respond to you, there is no reason not to hold her hand, she may have sensation.
Remember good times and discuss what went on in the past, like holidays, what is going on in your life etc. Some like my Aunt would listen to music and would attempt to sing. If you know the period of her youth try and enter her memories. Sometimes you may get some feedback from her as she responds to those different times
Your Mother/Father will be from those earlier times, one will be Her Child. Try and get them to talk of earlier times and any activities they used to do. You may find friends can also be approached, they will know your Gran in different ways and will be able to converse. Expect little and you may be given something quite wonderful, patients are always different, you just need to ring that bell
I always found with the Aunt I was unable to relate to her life because I was from a different generation, it was hard work, although very rewarding
BOB
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