Grandson prefers girls toys
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My 6 yr old grandson is heavily into 'my little pony'. l know it's fine for boys to play with girls toys and vice versa but this is not a faze, like most children go through. l have a 17 yr old grandson, who use to love dressing as a fairy when he was about 3...and he's very normal, so l know that children do these things.
The only toys he really plays with constantly are, his collection of ponies, equestria girls and his trains and track but predominantly, ponies and equestria girls. He also has 'my little pony' and 'equestria girls' dvds and watches them whenever possible on youtube.
His mum and l assumed he would grow out of the ponies but if anything, he is more into them than ever! This has been going on for at least 3yrs, so it's no faze.
He is an only child, bright and very loving...just a normal 6yr old really. But we are becoming quite concerned. We have tried everything to get him more interested in other toys...he has lots of different toys but his interest in them is short lived. He is more interested in girls toys....barbie, tinkerbell...anything girlie really. He gets very excited when seeing adverts on tv for princess dolls and barbie type dolls with lots of outfits...he wants them all!!!! He has little or no interest in so called boys toys, apart from Thomas the tank engine and his train tracks.
He likes to play outside with his girlie toys but is now worried incase other kids make fun of him. He has no friends that he plays with on a regular basis. Most of his cousins are girls, all the boys are alot older so he doesn't see them much. His mum is a single parent, so there is no male influence in his life.
What can we do. l hate to think of him being bullied because he doesn't want to play with guns, soldiers and the like. He is more feminine than masculine...it because he has always been surrounded by women and just needs some male imput or could it be a sign that he will be gay? We don't mind if he's going to be gay, we just want to know what to do for the best, to make growing up as easy and happy as we can.
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archemedes Shaz59
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The answer to this is very simple.
If he is gay, then what diffence could you or anyone else for that matter worrying about it make? - none other than to cause you and his parents anxiety.
The simple fact is that he is your much-loved grandson, and whether he is gay or not cannot or should not ever alter the way you feel about him.
He may grow out of this phase, and maybe he won't, but that in no way will alter who he is - basically he is your blood.
You cannot force him to be what you think he should be any more than your parents should have forced you to cultivate a different persona than you ultimately graduated to.
To sum up then, stop stressing about it and let him find his own level which he will in time.
Any further worry that you expend on this topic is completely unwarranted.
Just remember to hug him regularly and tell him how much you love him.
Shaz59 archemedes
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My love for him is unconditional, l will love him to bits until the day l die, no matter which path in life he decides to take!
Lizzie46881 Shaz59
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I hope you don't mind me posting this, but I just wondered if he might be showing the very early signs of being transgendered? I haven't been able to find a section on the forums on this and came across your post totally by accident searching for something else. I know a few people who have been through gender re-assignment successfully and know that it is being recognised these days as starting very early in some people, from childhood infact. It can be the cause of terrible bullying and later on, hate crime. I'm not trying to frighten you as I know many who have gone through this process and come out the other side happy and fulfilled in their chosen gender. However, I can't offer any advice as to what to do next, but if this rings a bell, maybe a chat with your gp? depends how enlightened he/she is?
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