Has anybody not had children

Hi ok, I Don't have it to bad just hot at night bearable, I just don't like the weird feeling that's all wish it would give you breaks between to feel yourself that's all,how does it make you feel

Hi, people get a lot f that Dizzness, I feel like I'm going to fall over, I was telling one of the girls I felt better in October symptoms subsided till January bang it was back and because I was feeling better I forgot I was still in peri and it could return, here iam feeling back the same way again I cry sometimes that's not me I'm tuff cookie, when my mum was ill I had to gnome it and deal with her sickness hospital trips to A&E at 4am n the morning sitting in casualty then to come home sleep and every evening back down there with how I feel after she died I dread the funeral I was feeling so weird in the church but I got through it in the name of God just pray every night.

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Hi Gailannie!

I didn't have children, wish my eggs had been used up because I was still having my monthly up until age 56! LOL! 

I don't thing whether we have had children or not matters. I did read somewhere, escapes me now where, but sometimes if PMS was bad for a person, then perhaps peri might be more of a bugger. I don't know if that is even true. 

I would think a rather abrupt ending like complete hysterectomy would be tough, but I have had several friends make it through with flying colors. 

Appears to be all hit or miss here, doesn't it?

Anniexx

Here, here! I had a hysterectomy back in2005, when I wasn't yet 44. It was kind of a shock. Everything at once. Trouble sleeping, nightmares, night-sweats, sweating in the daytime, then freezing right after, and, yes, depression as well. I do have 4 children but also had fibroids in my tubes and my uterus. My doc didn't want to do the surgery because I was young, but I was unable to stand straight and had bled for 3-4 weeks at a time, and in unbelieveable pain the whole way thru. He tried the injections (I can't rem the name of the medicine, but they can only use 3 doses of it) to stop my period and I was able to stand up again with much less pain than b4. (Little did either of us knkw, there was an underlying reason for the pain besides the fibroids. I was dx'ed with Ankylosing Spondylitis a few years ago) He did the surgery and menopause hit right away. Pits been 11 years now and I still have the sweats. Not as bad as b4, but still. Daytime, nighttime. All day. I sleep with a fan next to me. My poor hubby says I freeze him out but it can't be helped. I take Trazodone to sleep because I wasn't sleeping at all. I don't take it each and every night, but most nights, I do. As for the depression, I suppose it depends on who u are, since we're all different, with our own hormones and whatnot. If a woman is childless, ans going thru menopause, and feels some depression, maybe it's because she's had no children and somewhere inside, she really wanted one or more(?) idk. (Please, don't get me wrong. I wouldn't dream of judging anyone for not wanting children if she didn't/doesn't. I don't want anyone to misread what I've written. Everyone has their own plans for his or her own life and I'd never impose my plans for myself onto anyone else, nor am I in any position to ever judge another person for anything at all. ) Just guessing. I just had that idea when I was reading the question and some of the responses. It was just an idea I had. If depression becomes a problem, one may try seeing their PC and asking for a mild medication of some sort. Even a 5mg Valium could help. Ok? I truly hope all works out well for you.

If you didn't want to be got wrong or misread you should have stopped at this point: " I suppose it depends on who u are, since we're all different, with our own hormones and whatnot."

Hello Bridie!

I don't see any issue how EMT929 wrote her response to Gailanne. She was simply being mindful that during this time, many of us can easily take things not in the intended way one may mean.

In reading her words, I see that she gingerly brought up a topic that many at this stage may or may not feel a certain way that might trigger a bit of sadness, is all. 

I myself was not able to have my own children and some of people throught the years have assume that I would  horribly depressed about it. I tend to look at it in a different way and realize this is my lot in life. I've been blessed in many other ways.

So I appreciate when someone takes the time to make sure that their good intentions are understood from the start. I am so certain reading EMT's very detailed response, it was heartfelt and incredibly thoughtful.

Anniexx

14 years!!! You deserve a medal liz. Are you on HRT?