has sertraline ever made you push someone you're close to away?

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i'm not on sertraline personally but a former close friend of mine is. he's on 50mg and has been for the last month or so. before we were as close as ever even though we had just gone through a breakup (we were in a relationship for three years). then all of a sudden he u-turned on me and just stopped talking to me, and even ended up using me for sex. he's even now got a new girlfriend but the speed of their relationship is scarily quick. this behaviour is so unlike him that i just wanted to know if anyone has ever pushed someone they care about away unintentionally because of being on this drug or experienced something similiar to this.

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  • Posted

    Hello jmb278,

    I can't say thats a familiar patern to what I've experienced. I got to the point of telling my girlfriend to leave me and find someone she deserved. as for sex, the sex drive completly vanished..... i wonder if these acts from him are a sign that he is digging his head in the sand about whatever condition of sypmtoms are really bothering him. and unfortunatly its the ones closest that always seem to get hurt most.

    • Posted

      It could well be because of that certainly. Maybe this isn't the medication for him. Can I ask for what reason he was placed on sertraline to begin with ?
    • Posted

      he gets depression around xmas but was never formally diagnosed. it was the second time it had happened in two years. this time he had a breakdown just beforehand and so was put on sertraline but i don't know for exactly what reason because he disappeared for two weeks and didn't tell me what he was diagnosed with when he came back, only that he'd been put on this drug.
    • Posted

      Sounds like he gets stressed out at over the christmas period. built up over the years and it just got too much for him to deal with. it can take quite a while before ir regulates into his system. but his actions that are out of character are a bit of a puzzle. could be a mid life crisis too. but with anxiety / panic disorders / depression , moods swings and emotional changes are very common and sometimes very strong too.
    • Posted

      what should i do then if it turns out to be a manic episode?
  • Posted

    I think it's not about the drug, it doesn't make you do thing you don't want to do. Maybe he need some time, specially if you're her ex... I lived this on my own (his part) several times and maybe he's trying to rebuild his life, he needs this, and he will re-take the contact when he feels ready. Just ask for a sincere explaination, don't be mad, don't tell him what he should or shouldn't do. If he is taking sertraline he's not in a good moment, so don't be mad, sometimes people need time.
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      i'm not mad at him. i'm just trying to figure out his behaviour because it is so unlike him. even someone who knew us both when we first met has agreed with me his recent actions, and the speed of his new relationship, are out of character. i'm just looking for any advice on the drug's side effects and people's experiences of it
  • Posted

    Perhaps he nees space, I know what it's like to always have someone there constantly and sometimes you just need a break, especially if he's moving on its completely normal to find a new gf and it could be his new gf doesn't feel right about him seeing you...

    I hope the sertraline works for him, it's has finally worked for me and I can finally stand up for my self with less anxiety and can be happy and get things done, working out daily, it feels great smile

    it can open you up and stop the anxiety and stress from stopping you from doing the things you want.

    All I know is I cannot drink because it's makes me crazy and make decisions I don't want when I am sober, allways regretting my actions the next day, which is not like me, so I stopped drinking smile

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