Have you ever been blamed for giving someone an STD?

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Have you ever been blamed/shamed for giving someone an STD?

Has someone ever given you one and not told you?

Did you ever not tell your partner because you were afraid?

Ever wish you could inform your partners other partners that they've been exposed because you know you have something?

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    That’s why the most responsible thing to do is to be tested. 
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      In America STD testing are for free. As long as you have unprotected sex, you should be tested or better yet test each other before sexual intercourse ever begins.
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      But also in America people are hyper sensitive and take offense to everything. Sometimes you say hey lets get tested and the other gets mad as if you accused them. Its only free if you're income is low enough or possibly if you have health insurance and still so many people are stuck in the middle.

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    I met a wonderful gal and we decided to get tested before having sex. I came out clean and she came back positive for herpes. She cried and expressed how much she loved me, and I did love her and it was a hard decision to stay. I wasn’t even thinking that she’d break up with me one day so I did research and felt like if I did catch it, I’d have someone by my side.. long story short, she dumped me and I’m at risk of contracting it with no shoulder to rest my head on. I know she had  obligation to stay with me but I’m waiting to get tested. I hope I come back clean and will move on with my life. I already feel betrayed and hurt by her but everyone has different perspectives on  herpes.

    For now, I’m not getting close to anyone because I don’t think it’s fair. I need to confirm I’m negative negative. Some see it as nothing, others are terrified. I never though about herpes until my ex told me she had it.

    So there you go. I’m not blaming anyone but myself in this situation. 

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      The good thing is you knew what you were getting in to. The bad is that she left you. Im glad you're being responsible and not trying to infect others but at the end of the day so many people have one form of herpes or another so its hard to avoid. For a long time I was most scared of herpes until I had a couple close calls and finally learned to relax.

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      I learned to relax because I looked at the statistics and realized I'd already had 2 close calls and if it was going to happen then it was going to happen. I do what I can to prevent it as much as possible by doing things like asking if they have it, inspecting them and myself for outbreaks, and using condoms, however, if the person isn't having an outbreak but they're shedding I can't see that so no point in stressing it. Control what you can and after that hope for the best. 

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      I learnt to relax after looking at the statistics & most importantly, knowing that I can trust and get support from someone. I think I’m the only person my ex ever shared the results with & I haven’t told a single person. Well on forums but nothing personal.

      She’s happily living life now with new guys. I can only wish them the best but don’t feel like it’s my place to share that stuff. It’ll look like I want to cause trouble.

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      The right person will eventually come along!

      Enjoy the positive memories and grow and learn from the rest. I'm glad you didn't share because its never really our place to share information like that about others.

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      That's so terrible for anyone to do such to especially someone who accepted her despite her positive STD status. Sorry you got treated so horribly; I'm sorry to say it this way, but it seems that so many girls out there are selfish and totally inconsiderate. Now she's all over the place distributing her horror. She's now a major distributor who I'm sure will never agree to testing, neither would she responsibly reveal her status to the next person. Pure evil on her part!

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    My ex actually became so hypochondriac that she couldn't help thinking that whatever she noticed on her skin was HIV symptom. So, she started freaking out and pressuring me with questions about my status. Fortunately, I'd gone for HIV testing less than two weeks prior and my result was right there on my desk. I showed it to her and she was the happiest person. I laughed it off because I understood that fear.

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      I’m happy that you understood and got tested. I knew I could’ve slept wit my gf the first time we met but it’s not my style so we took things slowly and always used protection.
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    It's actually quite amazing that all you're ever really taught through sex ed and what not, even throughout adult life is to wear protection....have safe sex....so you do and think you'll be fine. Well, 3 incurable stds are not protected against by wearing condoms (HPV, HSV1, HSV2). And what does the medical community do? They sweep them under the rug and remove them from standard std testing.

    They need to address them like the epidemic that they are and put more pressure on medical companies to stop wasting money on cash generating treatments and invest in looking for a cure.

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