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Have you ever given up on life?

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Girraffe1985
Girraffe1985

Has anyone ever felt like they’ve given up on life? That they’ve lost the will to try or put effort into anything? I feel that’s where I am right now. I’m 33, no job and I’ve been in and out of work for the last 4 years. I live with my 88 year old Nan in a rented flat and I know that if she died tomorrow I’d be turfed out as it’s a scheme for elderly people. So you’d think that would motivate me to do everything in my power to get a job. But it doesn’t. Seeing my Nan devastated when she sees me lying in bed sleeping all day doesn’t motivate me. I used to try so hard at things but I don’t really try in any aspect of my life anymore. Has anyone experienced this? How did you come to fight for your life again and to care about things again?

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  • borderriever
    borderriever Girraffe1985

    Posted

    Are there any reasons why you have been unable to work.

    Ill health, Disability  Mental Health  etc

    BOB

  • Guest
    Guest Girraffe1985

    Posted

    Never give in brother ,I've been in a dark place a while ago and looking bk now it feels a lifetime ago. Sounds to me you're in a rut and depression isn't helping, I'd certainly advise seeing your GP and speaking to friends and family. Don't ever feel embarrassed or weak for letting your guard down it was best thing I ever did.

    Keep in touch man

    • Girraffe1985
      Girraffe1985 Guest

      Posted

      Thanks Paul. I appreciate your message. I hope like you some day I look back on this time and feel that things have improved.
    • Guest
      Guest Girraffe1985

      Posted

      1 day at a time mate small steps. I will say best thing I did to help me apart from speak to people was stopping using cocaine, I don't know if u do drugs that's your business but if so I would strongly advise trying to stop. I'm 37 and just got a puppy which gives me meaning to life I now have someone to look after other than just myself. Don't beat yourself up either about depression it's nothing to b ashamed of.

  • sarah93199
    sarah93199 Girraffe1985

    Posted

    Your post really struck a chord with me. I am the same age as you and feel prettty much the same about life. I feel that I just want life over with. Is there anything in life you get pleasure from? Do you have friends? You, like me sound very isolated and this just increases depression and apathy. The only antidote is connection with people. Maybe look at volunteering for a cause you care about? I'm sorry your depression severe but please keep going.

    • Girraffe1985
      Girraffe1985 sarah93199

      Posted

      Hey,

      Thanks so much for your reply. I do have friends but the friendships and socialising doesn’t really change how I feel. Most don’t understand and some have no sympathy for me. I’ve lost some friendships because I think I’ve been too demanding. I can enjoy being with friends but as soon as I’m back to real life I feel rubbish again.

    • sarah93199
      sarah93199 Girraffe1985

      Posted

      I'm sorry to hear that being with friends/socialising doesn't help much. You say you think you've been too demanding. I really doubt this is actually true. Depression is horrible it makes us believe we're a burden or demanding but this is a lie. Maybe your old friends just didn't understand depression and this not your fault. Its good at least you have some respite some of the time with some friends. I would suggest just trying to meet people and form new social networks so you can build yourself a support system. The more we're with others the less time we have in our own heads.

    • Girraffe1985
      Girraffe1985 sarah93199

      Posted

      Thank you Sarah. I’ve had friends tell me I need to be more balanced in what I message them as it’s mostly about my difficulties. Other friends have said I’ve not been there for them during they times of need but I’ve not been well enough to. Other friends have nearly ended our friendship when I’ve said things impulsively that I shouldn’t have said.
    • Guest
      Guest sarah93199

      Posted

      Awesome reply Sarah I volunteered to walk dogs whilst I was off work.
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