Having A Hard Time Saying 'No' Then Wish You Had?
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Once upon a time I could never say 'No' it was always 'Yes, yes , yes'
Then I discovered my irritability and frustration and disappointment at finding myself in situations that I wished I'd never let myself in for - all because I was afraid of others' disapproval - The rows, justifications, 'because because because' from the book 'When I Say No I Feel Guilty' no need to justify changing your mind anymore just 5 little words in response to 'Why did you do that? etc' --'Because I FELT LIKE IT!!'
End Of!!!
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gail0525 judith93388
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judith93388 gail0525
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It sounds like you're being really put upon and that is unacceptable
This time is now for you -
Just imagine what would they do if you were no longer here -
Your daughter needs to speak to her employers and deal with this problem herself, they are her children after all and not yours
You've obviously done your job having 12 grandkids suggests you may have had 3 or 4 children of your own!
Have you thought of joining an assertive training course or a group support because this sounds like elder abuse to me -It's time to be kind to yourself
Take care -
Big ((HUG)) xx
joy47826 judith93388
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I was raised with the guilt stuff from religion and it took years but got rid of that stuff....good luck and practice. Joy 76 US
gail0525 joy47826
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joy47826 gail0525
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I know of many grandmoms who are raising their child's child and I know of some grandmoms who won't even babysit......so takes all kinds....
Take care of YOU, these grownups should not expect so much from you....Joy