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i don't think i can do right for doing wrong! it's a bad thing when your husband sees your mental health is not as strong as it was! how do i change this to make him happy? i don't know what i"ve done wrong and how to mend it! what would you do? who would you see? do i need sectioning for having a tough time?
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sam18386
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no say how, stupid phone!
wayne1962 sam18386
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Hi sam
Without knowing your husband or your relationship length or pattern, your post inspires suspicion that he might be using mental health as a tool to control you? The question "How do i change to make him happy?" sounds like you are burdened with the responsibilty for how he feels. What about how YOU are feeling? That's where you should be focused. If there is an issue - a "wrong" as you put it - surely it's up to him to divulge what that 'problem' is, so you can both work out how to resolve it?
If you are feeling down, depressed etc, how about an appointment with a psychologist to talk about what's going on?
Sorry, but I can't help thinking hubby might be gaslighting you.
sam18386
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hi Wayne, we have been married quite a while so know each other very well, when he says he's feeling down and fed up it's not an excuse i don't think because he has suffered really severe depression in the past. i was more concerned by him telling me i had changed but still couldn't say how. i have a history of PTSD which my doctor's know about and know that i am trying to get support for this, i have changed i think because most i see this as not being my fault rather than blaming myself. i don't understand what you mean by gaslighting, please explain this? my husband seemed gappier now, i left him to sleep all day and he felt much better after this!
joshuapryce1987 sam18386
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It seems you have insecurities. You have to address these and move forward in your relationship. Mental health problems is more common and normal then you may think. I struggle with it and both parents did. My grandparents also struggled with it. Just be yourself, just because you have mental health issues doesnt mean you cannot be you.