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I've been suffering with terrible anxiety due to my husband being unwell and keep
getting panicky feelings. I suffer with agoraphobia and fibromyalgia and hardly
go out except with my husband.I'm so scared he's going to die and panic about what will happen to me as I'm so frightened of being left alone as I can't go out .
Any ideas on how to deal with this please..
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Ladymay linda282930
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Hi sorry to hear your husband isn't well the panicky feelings are really hard to deal with as i get them too my husband isn't a well man and i worry about him all the time it's one thing after another with him i just wanted to let you know your not on your own if that helps, and anytime you want a chat just message me it helps to talk to strangers i think takes your mind off things for a while hope your okay
linda282930 Ladymay
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Hi , Thanks for your reply.
My husband is the same, it's one thing after another.
It does help to know someone else understands what you are going through.
Hope your hubby is ok at the minute .
Ladymay linda282930
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He had had cancers but that is okay now he has long term covid symtoms that have caused heart and breathing problems and at the minute he has hurt he's back so is just sitting and resting it but it seems he's illness is never ending he finishes with one thing then starts with another
hope your husbands okay today
jan34534 linda282930
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try not to think too far into the future. It creates so much stress and anxiety. I do that a lot also. One thing that helps me is having my virtual online counseling appointment once a week. That is something you could do because you wouldn’t have to leave your home. you could get a lot of support that way!
Counselors have access to all sorts of resources also when they are needed
. Do you have any family that is supportive?
Just know that there is a lot of help out there. For now, take one day at a time. Talk to family and friends for support.
Dont Forget to take care of yourself. Take care and I hope things work out well for you and your husband.
linda282930 jan34534
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Hi , Thinking too far ahead is one of my problems. It's so difficult to not worry
about what might happen in the future.
I've tried counselling by phone calls but it didn't help at all .
I've no friends and my family just don't have time to help me .
Hope you are having a good day today .
claire_87735 linda282930
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I have health anxiety and my partner had a heart attack four years ago he had to be resuscitated at home and I saw it all. He had 5 defib shocks and came back to life on the 6th. it sent my anxiety spiralling. After his emergency operation and check ups I felt much better because he was in good hands but since Covid he hasn't had a check up for nearly 2 years and I'm back panicking again. Every time he has a chest pain I think it's going to happen again. The trouble is he has started panicking a bit too which makes it worse. Where abouts are you xx
linda282930 claire_87735
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Sorry to hear about your husband, it must have been very
frightening to watch .
My hubby suffers with his lungs and it's scary to see him
when he can't breath properly.
I'm trying to take it one day at a time but it's very hard .
barbara66703 claire_87735
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we can each support each other. i dont think our family realizes how hard this can be watching loved ones suffer with severe health problems until they get here. its generally well its old age or its the result of not eating right.. more or less blaming and shaming . what i need is a family member to understand and a hug or two....or a how is it going? just to listen... or shop its all the little things that help. a phone call just to check up.
we all have suffered along with our loved ones for many years and having others who have been thru similar health issues who can understand is better and can relate our feelings helps a lot.
linda282930 barbara66703
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I so agree with you .. It's the little things like a phone call
to ask how you are , do you need anything , are you coping ?
It's so lonely trying to cope when no one bothers with you ...
barbara66703 linda282930
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hello Linda...yes this is a very lonely time and hard to get out with health issues in a scary pandemic. the holidays are coming and .... well you know....I have several hobbies trying to stay busy does not keep my mind free from the neglect experienced by my family. i took care of them and always took care of my mom when she could no longer. i wonder what will happen to us.
ive been in a convalescent home recovering from surgery and it was a horrible place. 21 days was enough , my hubby and I will stay home . i will not let him live in such irresponsible conditions. its such a horrible feeling of helplessness trying to adjust to it all and not let it smother me or define who i am.
we all were young , independent and successful ... now its learning how to accomplish that again with all the health /care complications.
this is nice to have you to talk with ,thank you for listening... sending good vibes your way.
barbara66703 linda282930
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same situation here too. he has 2nd stage kidney failure. its been a 10 year journey, and it never gets any easier. as my health has begun to fail too. i lost my sister, nephew and son the last 2 years. family is disappearing.
i stay busy all i can do and take one day at a time.
sending good vibes to all who are going thru this very stressful time.
linda282930 barbara66703
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Sorry you are going through this too .
This has been a 15 year journey so far for me with my health deteriorating
along the way .
Hope you have a better day today.
Ladymay barbara66703
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Hi i am sorry to hear of your bad times life can be so unfair and to have anxiety on top makes it worse i know exactly what you are going through i have high Anxiety it's ruined my life
i hope you have a better day today
sasical72 barbara66703
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I am so sorry, I can't begin to imagine. Sending you healing energy xx
barbara66703 sasical72
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thank you for all you kinds vibes. its one day at a time.