Hearing Loss - a disability needing NHS support

Hi Tiswas, 

Many thanks. Pretending to hear isn't a good idea. I expect we all do it. I sometimes do it, but I should not. Sometimes the other person really believes you have heard and then you are caught 'twixt the horns of a dilemah. Do you check or do you hope it is unimportant?

My grandmother had one of those. It hung from a riibbon and we could all hear the susurition of her silk or satin blowse rubbing against the aid. Plus the whistles. But it was all one could get.

About the same period an old master was rather deaf. He got one of the  whistling crackling aids. On boy started tapping a finger under his desk. Soon the whole class was lightly tapping in unisen, all under the desk and invisible to th e latin mastet. The master tried adjusting his controlsm. Then looked searching round the class. No sign of  boys being bad. More fiddling with the controls. The tapping continued. Then with a cry of frustration he threw the aid into the rubbish. It was really most unkind.

That little anecdote illustrates how people view deafness. An object of fun or ridicule.

Cheers George

but i think george people with disabilitys that cant be seen , including mine and mental health problems are always the but of jokes . 

just because it cant be seen does not make any less a problem 

i read somewhere on the net , that awomen alected suicide abroad 

because of tinitus she had constant screaching in her ears and the doctors couldnt help her . very sad 

Yes, it helps me keep my irritation with tinitis in proportion. Plus my hearing aids give me some relief too. The downside of the aids is itchy ear canals from time to time; and wax accumulation. Olive oil helps both.

Hi Tiswas ~

Hope you don't mind if I join in.  I agree with unseen disabilities, I  too have to deal with that.  My pain cannot be seen nor can the sarcoidosis and the sjogrens, although with sjogrens, I have to wear sunglasses and any kind of light is too bright for my eyes.  That along with a cane, I can see where I'd be the butt of the jokes.  I look like I'm blind and people can be cruel.

I had one couple stare at me during a baseball game.  I sat up at the top because it was too steep for me to go down.  This couple would glance at me then turn in  towards one another and giggle.  Okay, I got that joke, so what.  I just pray that one day it doesn't come back to bite them in the butt  

With all that said, I'm sorry you're dealing with this as well.  I do feel for you!

Frustrated

no problem we are all friends and have simuliar problems on this forum

it really hurst me to , puts me of going out  i just dont want deal with other peoples igorance. 

with fibro non of your symptoms can be seen so people think if your struggling with stuff your either lazy stupid or just not trying.

i so enjoyed my amerture show group i was in it took everything i had to make it there each week it was totaly exhusting singing and learning lyrics the pain i was in some weeks  was wicked and when the fatigue hit at the end of rehearsals i was sofa bound for at least 3 days .

when someone new took over they made it so we did shows more like musicals and gave most of lines on top of lyrics to learn ,there was one girl who didnt get any because she simply didnt want any ,

but when i said it was to much for me i just got told i could do it if i tried i cried every week becaue with the brain fog i just couldnt do it ,lyrics and songs are differant they have a rhythem i can learn them easly 

in the end i jsut had to stop going by pulling out of the show at the last minute then everyone blamed me for doing so

even thou i stated right at the  beging feb that i didnt want dialogue and several times thru out the 6months rehearsals but they just ignored me there was nothing eles left for me .to do

. i was ill due to the way i was treated for a good 6 months after, kept crying because i loved being on stage and i loved singing and it gave me a purpose

 i had to give up days to be able to do it and that was how i was treated .i wouldnt mind but one of them was a nurse .no one stood up for me . i was heart broken . some friends ahhhhhh 

And Tiswas, tinitis can be very very bad. You mention the poor llady with screeching. I remember many years ago a policeman had been vilently assalted in the course of duty. The result was tinitus that was a loud banging. Within a short time the poor man killed himself to escape that endless banging. I had tinitis by that time so I took note.

Dear Tiswas,

There are those who learn lines easily and those who don't. Those who do cannot understand what the difficulty is. wel, I am like you. I can learn lots of things but lines and vocaulary lists I just cannot do.

Well, there are always some noises one could do without. But grandchildren? no, but I agree, at times if only they would be a little less strident. 

Doc!

The screeches I'm referring to are the high pitched screams because they didn't get what they wanted or they are arguing etc...that happens with all 8 together and they are tired.  I can do w/o that kind of tone  I love my grandkids and would die for them, except when they screech!  LOL

much love,

Frustrated

Ah! yes.dear Frustrated, I understand. The screeches of the poor woman could not be turned off and did not come from 8 happy young people for whom you would die without hesitation if it would save any one of them, Right?