Heartbroken
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I am a 58 y.o. female and contracted herpes about 12 years ago. I had been married for 20 years, divorced for about 3 years and had a relationship with a guy I met a Christian singles group. We had "safe"sex - used condoms and within a month I had my first breakout. I was devastated. I went on from there and had another relationship with a guy that was very understanding and kind about it. We dated for a couple years.
After that relationship ended I think it really hit me because I just haven't had the courage to date again.
A guy recently asked me out - and at my age, that does not happen often. He's nice. I met him at work. We've gone out a couple of times and I really like him and he "said" he really liked me and is looking forward to possibly a longterm relationship. I decided I needed to let him know up front that I have Herpes. Wow - was that hard to do!! I wanted to cry. His face when I told him. It was awful. He was very kind about it and said he needs to do some research on it.
He called me today to ask if he could have caught it by kissing me as he has grandchildren and doesn't want to expose them to it. I cried.
I found this website and loved it. I just felt like I needed to vent. I have noone to talk to about this. I have a feeling that he will decide not to continue the relationship and that hurts - a lot. But the worst thing is that I don't know if I'll have the courage to date again - ever. He was the first guy I've been out with in six years.
Whoever reads this - I'm sorry for all the whining - but it feels good to let it out.
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feelbroken jam1903
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I can provide more info from there. I highly recommend googling H Opportunity. It had pamphlets you can download and send to your friend that has all the statistics. He likely had oral herpes at his age, so he needs to go get checked.
jam1903 feelbroken
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feelbroken jam1903
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Hsv 2 rarely is contracted through oral sex and is only 1% of oral herpes cases, so don't stress that too much... He has nothing to worry about. Your hsv 2 on your genitals is not going to travel to yours or his mouth. That website does encourage H- partner to go on the site and educate themselves too. The moderators have had heroes for 15-30yrs and are very versed and work w one of the leading clinics specializing in herpes.
nikki1230 jam1903
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YankieDoodle jam1903
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I am 52 and got HSV over 30 years ago. I don't know if it was denial or ignorance, but I didn't even realize I had it until several years after I got married. (mid-20's)
Recently (like 3 weeks ago) I became single after 29 years of marriage. I am petrified of entering the dating scene again. Right now -- men and sex are the furthest thing from my mind -- but I'm guessing time will pass and my feelings will change. I hope to have an attitude like nikki1230 and just tell them up front and see how it goes. F*-'em if they can't handle it.
I do like to point out that I was married 17 years before I actually went in to get my HSV test. My husband had never had an outbreak, but I figured he was an asymptomatic carrier. At around 24 years of marriage, he went in for a blood test spectifically for HSV, and it came out negative.
I mentioned this to the first doctor I've ever had that seemed to have a clue, and she said he probably has a really strong immune system. She said that just because he's exposed to the virus, doesn't mean he's going to contract it.
Anyway -- I of course think everyone who is HSV positive should let a prospective partner know, I also like to let people know that just because they have sex with someone who is positive, it doesn't necessarily mean they are going to get it.
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