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i was told by my GP in 2013 I had herpes. I am 56yers of age and was not ready for this news. I didn't have another outbreak for 18 months and almost convinced myself she was wrong. But sadly I have had 2 outbreaks in the last 4 months following a broken leg hence a low immune system I am told. I try to be positive but I have told two boyfriends nd they have both disappeared once they knew.

i am not keen on being alone for the rest of my life but at my age and with this problem it seems inevitable. Hoping someone can give me suggestions and hope x

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  • Posted

    thats how it is some will leave and some will stay
    • Posted

      It makes it very tempting to not mention it before becoming intimate but just not in my nature to lie. 

      I guess it says more about them than me but it is pretty depressing when my age already goes against me for meeting someone

      i am normally a pretty positive person but I guess two outbreaks in such a short time take there toll. And the weird things they are on my bum cheek!! Didn't even know it could be anywhere on your body 

    • Posted

      omg because i was with my ex boyfriend 4 1/2 years and he was my first everything im 23 ive been with him since i was 18 never cheated or with anyone else and he gave it to me there days where you get so depressed and you just sit and cry then after 1 month he left me for 4 months then just came back this month thats the point other people dont want to risk there life of the chance of catching herpes i know sometimes you might feel down but you cant let herpes take control its just like having period month to month

    • Posted

      The guy I got it from was a friend for 20 years. He has never had any symptoms but I know it must have been him as I hadn't had sex with anyone else for a year before that.

      I have not been physical with anyone since I found out as they both did a runner! I would just love to meet someone with the same medical problem as it would be so simple

      hope everything works out with your ex andthanksfor taking the time to reply. I am at the wallowing stage tonight but your reply means I am not totally alone. Thank you

    • Posted

      its okay im always here willing to comfort you everyone i know thats has herpes simplex virus always feel alone and depressed the best way to handle the depression is to occuply your time just start doing things that you like to do like right now im in college im studying forensic science so i really dont have time to worry about herpes start going out hook up with a few homegirls and enjoy your life i can really give a care if someone wants to be with me or not love yourself first get to know the inner you then when you know those things the right people will come in your life and you need to be with the guy for a minute before you tell them you cant tell newbies newbies will run off
    • Posted

      But if a man wants to have sex after a few dates you have to tell him don't you?  But I know you're right I need to make excuses and then pick my moment.

      i am throwing myself into work right now and that is filling my time. Wish I could talk to family but I know them well enough to know they wouldn't understand at all. It would just give them something else to criticise me for!

      i hope that someday I meet someone that doesn't run a mile but I will take your advice and wait as long as I canbefore admitting it and also try not to do it with such guilt 

    • Posted

      i will give you my number you can call and text me any time you feel and you dont have to have sex after a few dates  the first time i had sex with my first it took me months make them wait for at least 3-4 months before you try anything get to know that person very well before you try and sleep with them you will know if hes the right one

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