Help!
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I've just been diagnosed with HSV2 I've always had HsV1. I thought I had an ingrown hair or chaffing, it didn't hurt much only annoying as my pants were rubbing against it. I'm devestated to say the least I can't stop crying about it, I know there is worse out there but I fear what this could potentially do to my relationship, I told him straight away and his being very mature about it.. we have been together for 5 years now we're in our 30's and have obviously been talking about getting married. I've read there is minimal risk infecting babies.. I'm just in a lot of shock. What are the chances he has it also since it's been 5years unprotected sex with no Issues until now.
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FelizCastus anonymous_95449
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Were you diagnosed by swab test? There's a chance he passed it to you, and if not, then the fact he didn't get it for several years reduces the odds of him getting it in future. Most unaware discordant couples pass it on within the first few months, and the longer a couple remains discordant, the greater the odds they will most likely remain that way.
anonymous_95449 FelizCastus
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I was diagnosed by a blood test my igg was positive but igm negative. I had a sore but doctor said she couldn't get it tested as it was dry which I don't get because it was only day 3. If there anything like the ones I get on my mouth they are at their peak by day 3. my doctor didn't seem concerned in the slightest and any question I had was answered like it wasn't a massive deal, when she saw how upset I was she asked me why and said it was very common. There has been a lot I've read online that contradicts itself and I just don't know what to think. Thanks for reading, I haven't been able to tell anyone else.
rivera32047 anonymous_95449
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Same here I'm devasted i was diagnosed last week and I'm in total desbelief. I been doing research to find a way that will lessen my outbreaks. now I have this horrible itch in my private areas. My igg was negative and my igm was positive. Do you how the two differ?
FelizCastus rivera32047
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FelizCastus anonymous_95449
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There's a lot of misinformation. If you have a question, feel free to ask or see if you can find the answer in my pinned discussion thread at the top of this forum (many external links included).
rivera32047 FelizCastus
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Igg was 0.91 which is negative igm was 2 something so he said it was high and I was positive but I really wanna look for a second opinion since I been reading it's not accurate but I did have an outbreak. A few years back I had shingles do you think that can have anything to do with my labs being positive Cus the burning felt about the same
FelizCastus rivera32047
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The IgM test can be affected, not IgG. Was your outbreak swabbed? If not, that's a missed opportunity for proper early diagnosis and HSV typing, and you should retest for IgG only at 3 months.
Livelife anonymous_95449
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He probably gave it to you
And if he didn't he's probably already got it by now, don't bother getting him checked just leave it
He's being mature because he's a grown up
He loves you, so he will accept it
It's horrible when you first get diagnosed and you feel terrible
But that depression feeling will go!
You're still the same person and you'll soon love life again
anonymous_95449 Livelife
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Is it likely that he could get an outbreak? Or is it just one of those things that you won't ever know? I get cold sores on my lips and that's never effected him, although I have noticed that I've had more break outs while being with him than in my past relationship. I think I would feel even worse if I was the only one with it. Currently hating life especially since I've only ever had 4 sexual partners in my entire life think I've asked 'why me' about a dozen times now.
Livelife anonymous_95449
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He could get an outbreak but then again he might not
But I feel like if he's with you and he's not having outbreaks
What's the point of checking just to cause upset?
If for say you break up (and I pray you don't) and he wanted a new relationship then that would be a good time to test
I think the reason you're getting outbreaks is because you're stressing
I thought the same 'this doesn't happen to me'
But I promise you it's more of an annoyance now seriously it doesn't bother me much
I am happy and in love again with a guy who doesn't have it
Livelife anonymous_95449
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It's one of those things you'll never know
If in 6 months he doesn't get one then just assume he's not going to get one
I have a negative partner and he hasn't shown symptoms yet and it's like has he not got it orrrr has he got it and he's just one of the lucky ones
(Actually hoping for the second one)