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sara97992
sara97992

Hi, I have just been told by my doctor that I have herpes. I am 20 years old and have only have 2 sexual partners. I have always done everything protection wise to make sure I don't get anything. I feel disgusted, how could I let this happen. where do I go from now? How do you explain that to future partners? I found out I contracted it when I saw the doctor today, he said he was very positive I have it as I have had all the symptoms, including sores, flu like illness, swollen genitals, burns to pee  etc. but have to wait until monday to get test results. 

I don't think I could live with myself if I have it. 

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  • scott1776
    scott1776 sara97992

    Posted

    Hi Sara, 

    Sorry to hear of your troubles. Hopefully the text come back negative, but being on this forum and reading different stories, it's sounds as though you do. 

    If you do, don't panic or get too depressed. Because there are more people on this earth that have herpes than you can count in your lifetime. Rich people, poor people, celebrities, politicians, every kind of person from every walk of life. So don't be troubled, we all have something, and that's me included. 

    You can take persription drugs in the mean time that will calm outbreaks. Whenever you're tired of those there is a natural supplement that stops outbreaks. So just be happy that you have options and if you're really serious You can change your life and not let herpes tell you how to live. 

    Good luck! We're all pulling for you! 

    S. 

    • sara97992
      sara97992 scott1776

      Posted

      I just don't understad how I could have gotten it. I have never had unprotected sex and the dr wasn't very helpful he just sat there watching me cry probably thinking I was some girl who sleeps around. 
  • sydney12646
    sydney12646 sara97992

    Posted

    Hi sara97992,

    I am soooo sorry this is happening to you! I can definitely empathize because we are in the same boat! I'm only 20, have only had 2 different sexual partners, and I contracted the virus this summer. My bf of 2 years and I both have it now. We used protection and got checked regularly in the begging and nothing came up and we never had a breakout. We broke it off for a couple of months and I made the mistake of sleeping with someone else, however we used protection so I thought nothing of it. The beginning of this summer my bf and I started hooking up again. I told him about the man and he was fine with it and he swore he hadn't had sex with anyone. We were fine for most of the summer and one day we both woke up with sores after having a lot of sex, 2 months in. Because we had our first outbreaks at the same time we had no way of pinpointing who gave it to who. Luckily, we're still together.

    If you do have the virus, STAY STRONG! Of course you're gonna feel down about yourself at first, but you are not disgusting! You're young and wonderful and smart about sex and this clearly wasn't your fault! You can still have a sex life once you meet someone and explain that you have the cold sore virus. It'll be difficult, but people will accept you. Hey, the person might even have it himself as it is sooooo common. I already know of 2 friends that have hsv2 and most of my friends have hsv1 cold sores on their mouths. I'm on suppressives so it is improbable that I will give someone the virus if I'm nowhere near an outbreak and use protection just for extra precaution. My bf and I have sex all the time with no problems, he hasn't even had a second outbreak. I have but it was super mild and lasted only 3 days. 

    It's helpful to talk to people about it, especially those that are close to you. Have a support group and just stay strong smile hope this helped a little dear! 

    • sara97992
      sara97992 sydney12646

      Posted

      Thanks, but I still feel awful. the dr ( not my usual) told me it was my fault, I first had symptoms 5 days after intercouse with the guy/ he is my friend, I read that incubation and first symptoms take 2-12 days. the dr said it was too soon and I probably already had it. but my previous partner and I only had intercourse no oral sex, and always used protection, so I am thinking it must be this guy. It just made me feel bad, and so stupid. 
    • sydney12646
      sydney12646 sara97992

      Posted

      Even you did have it previously, how were you to know? That doesn't make it your fault. It's not like you purposefully were sleeping with people and not telling them. Don't be so down on yourself.
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