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I’ve been in a long distance relationship with this girl for almost 7 months now and we would talk a lot and she would always seem happy to me.
A few months ago she told me that she was depressed and had been having suicidal thoughts since she was 10 (she is 18) and she has attempted suicide 3 times already. I am the first person she had actually told about it and since we have been dating there has been a few times where she has come close to it but I’ve talked her out of it. Ive asked her to talk to her parents because she lives so far away from me and I can get on a flight and meet with her because I’m broke.
I’m in abit of a situation and I need advice. I really do love this girl and she means the world to me but she had told me that one day I might wake up and she will be gone and it’s really worried me. I’ve asked her to see a doctor, therapist, her pastor and even her parents but she won’t go. It seems like she has her mind made up that one day she is gonna end her life.
I’ve told her that when we meet up that it will be different and that I will make her happy and forget about all of the thoughts but she said that after 2 weeks I’ll go back to the same miserable life and I don’t wanna meet because you will be even sadder if we do meet and I do it.
Her parents are really strict and don’t know that we are even dating so it’s not like we can just meet up whenever. Recently I’ve been thinking would it be best if I sent her parents a message on Facebook so that they no and yes it would mean that we are over but I’d rather she was alive than date her if it came to that. I suggest maybe doing this to help her but she said her parents will only shout and drag her to church and only encourage it for her. She told me that if she decided not to do it and we stayed together deep down she would never be happy and always have the thoughts there.
I just need advice from anyone on here please because I really love this girl and if she took her life I might end up doing the same. I wouldn’t be able to live with knowing I couldn’t help her.
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