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Help , feel so desperate

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lucy32753
lucy32753

I know I keep moaning on here , but here goes ;

I feel so down , useless , pointless . I have been like this before but wasn't in a job then . I've been signed off work after not doing my job well . I'd started to feel bad before it was noticed at work I'm really worried about my job , my child as well . I have no motivation to do anything at all I feel so trapped.

I was in a realsionship but that started to go bad , he now has someone else & I wish I didn't know that . It was me whom ended things but it appears he'd already met this new woman .

Weekends are hard as my son is alway 'what are we doing today?' I just have nothing in me to even think of things today never mind do them , HELP

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  • lucy32753
    lucy32753

    Posted

    I'm on sertiline, been taking it 2 weeks now , been back to GPs , I actually feel worse but she said just persevere with it , I just feel so hopeless ALL the time
    • simon8173
      simon8173 lucy32753

      Posted

      I'm on fluoxetine, been on it a week and already feeling the positive effects!!
  • simon8173
    simon8173 lucy32753

    Posted

    Hey Lucy,

    don't give up on yourself. We all feel useless and have no motivation at times, it's part of the condition. I found focusing on something good is helpful, for example, your son. Just take each day at a time and give yourself so time. Have you seen your go?? Are you on meds??

    simon

    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 simon8173

      Posted

      Thanks Simon , yes I'm on meds , have been for 2 weeks
    • lucy32753
      lucy32753

      Posted

      Wish I had your faith , I seem to be struggling all the time , just living for 'going back to bed'

      I'm dreading Christmas 😕

    • simon8173
      simon8173 lucy32753

      Posted

      That's quite ironic Lucy, my worst times are when I go to bed!! I can't sleep, get up and pace around the house all night. It's usually at this point I go outside to escape!! Not good. I'm taking sleeping tablets, they knock me out good and proper...
    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 simon8173

      Posted

      Thanks Simon , well I feel safe when I'm in bed , not that I sleep anymore just lay there , I have started to read again , although I have to re read things . My boy will be safe in his room too
    • simon8173
      simon8173 lucy32753

      Posted

      Yer, reading is good, would also have a little background music on too 👍
  • sufjam
    sufjam lucy32753

    Posted

    destrain by relax/wiggle ears and brow. try being a little more open to being dependant with kids like maybe being honest wit kids about desperation is perfectly healthy; irony builds character. dont let factors imact freetime. when i was a kid i remeber being mysteriously disatisfied when all i rly needed was an authentic role model cool
    • simon8173
      simon8173 sufjam

      Posted

      That's true Durham, I've told all my kids, the youngest being 7yrs old. They've been really good about it and its helped me too.
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      Hi Lucy, I really feel for you, its an awful illness, I'm 4 weeks on meds now, and its hard to belive only 2 weeks ago I was just like you, infact I was worse!

      Carry on with the meds, another week aNd you will feel a huge difference, then another week after that, you will be even better, not 100% but you will function , and smile and have some motivation.

      Plz plz be strong and persevere. I know yor child is only 10 mine is 11, they don't understand it, but explaining it the best you can will help you a nd your child.

      All th re best x

    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      Thanks lattifa, it's a long road I know . Are you on your own with your child ?

      I'm not eating really & struggling to make sure my boy is ok , just want to stay in bed & hid

    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      Sort of, I hve 2 kids, my husband is their step dad, he works from miday to 10.30pm, so I feel alone every day, well I am. Did you talk to your son?

      Xx

    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      I have told him I'm not well , think I said something to do with the mind
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      How did he react? Was it ok?

      Its ever so hard, but you will feel better soon. Very soon. X

    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      My mum wants to pay for me to see someone private , as I seem to have a pattern of being very active (possibly manic) in the months before I get like this . I've been relatively ok for around 5 years but here I am back down here again & feel so desperate
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      Well your very lucky, I would grab that opportunity if I were you. Does your mum help out a lot then? I'm not that close with my mum unfortunately 😞
    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      She does try to help out where she can , not always in the right way but her heart is in the right place .

      I will take this opportunity & hopefully it will send me on the right path , it's just so all consuming right now , wish I could just think of other things .

      Hope you are on the road to recovery

    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      So far I'm ok, sleeping better and eating, depression has lifted, its the anxiety that's my biggest problem, feel on edge and get anxious thought running through my mind, see I the opposite I cant stay home, I have to get out be around people and busy.
    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      Wish I felt like being around people , seems you've turned a corner x
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      Even through my darkest days, I hated being alone, everyone is different, I get scared alone for some reason. I was suicidle at the beginning! I just need to stop the thoughts, its,what anxiety does, anxiety is,awful, cant be cured with meds, but depression can!
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 lucy32753

      Posted

      You need to keep in your mind, that you WILL be better soon. Xx
    • lucy32753
      lucy32753 lattifa7777

      Posted

      Thank you . I do like people to be with me who know of my problem . I had my ex stay this sat ( he's my boys dad) . I do feel suicidal at times but know I won't do anything about it
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