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Help, I have herpes and it breaks my heart!!!!

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babygiiiirl0634
babygiiiirl0634

This breaks my heart. Every time I have an outbreak I cry, and cry. it hurts so bad. I won't tell or express to anyone, except my fiancé. It was a little one night stand mistake ( stupid I know, ugh. ) But, we all make mistakes and sleep with the wrong person. It lasted not even 5 mins and boom I Have it. It just breaks my heart. Does anyone experience multiple break outs? I feel like I have way too many. sad. Anyone else going through this as well?

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  • Jo34567
    Jo34567 babygiiiirl0634

    Posted

    I am so sorry to hear this, I just got diagnosed with GH yesterday and am currently going through my first outbreak (so painful). Although I am unable to answer your question I just wanted to let you know your not alone and I know exactly how you feel. Just know that many people have this and live perfectly fine, I guess I'm just trying to look at the positive side of things although it has been very hard sad good luck and stay strong!!!
  • NuMe
    NuMe babygiiiirl0634

    Posted

    Are you not on meds? If not maybe you want to ask your doctor for some to better help control the amount of outbreaks!
    • babygiiiirl0634
      babygiiiirl0634 NuMe

      Posted

      they only give me 6 at a time and say take it when I break out. Is there a medicine you can take more often?
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus babygiiiirl0634

      Posted

      Which herpes type do you have? If Type 1, you don't need anything daily, just for outbreaks. If Type 2, experts still advise an observation period of several months to a year before daily meds (unless you are part of a discordant couple), as you may find you don't need them. Remember, the first outbreak is usually the worst, so any future ones should be milder and shorter. If not, then daily meds may be needed.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus babygiiiirl0634

      Posted

      Was that confirmed by a test? Because both types can occur genitally, and both types form blister down below. Symptoms are indistinguishable between the two types.
  • rhi943730
    rhi943730 babygiiiirl0634

    Posted

    I was diagnosed a week ago. At first when I went to the local clinic they checked me out and told me it did not look like GH but were going to test for it just to be safe. I spent two weeks just feeling sorry for myself, i struggled to eat and sleep and constantly cried not knowing if i did or not have the dreaded herpes. And then i got given the news, i was HSV type 2 positive. i felt in that moment i was a changed person, and now every time i look back at anything from before my diagnosis i feel like i am no longer the same. It makes you feel like damaged goods, and the thought of it makes me feel sick. 2 days or so after my diagnosis the outbreak was healed and i started to feel a little more hopeful but then another couple of days past and i woke up to another breakout, it may still be part of my primary break out im not sure. The sadness just rushed back and im struggling to get through the day without crying. Although the internet keeps telling me this is a common infection, with something like 1 in 6 people infected i cant get over it. Its not just you, and you are not alone in going through this. 
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus rhi943730

      Posted

      I know what you mean. I have Type 2 as well, and it sucks balls! I have tried to remain upbeat and not let this change me, and have been largely successful, but there are some things that will have to change regardless, like how much I party/drink, casual sex, spontaneous sex with a partner, dating, etc.

      That saddens me, too, but I think I'm going to take a break from those things for a while anyway. I'll still party occasionally and slowly up my alcohol intake, but no men and no sex!!

      Besides that, nothing else really has to change in the short- or long-term. I still eat what I like, drink what I like, continue to maintain some bad/unhealthy habits, and just go about my business like usual. I'm still the same person, just as you are, and that's what matters. smile

    • rhi943730
      rhi943730 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thanks, thats good to know.

      Its a strange feeling. Nothing has actually changed apart from the diagnosis, but it makes you feel different in a weird way. I hope its one of those things that gets easier with time although, i know i need to put the effort into not letting this get me down, but some days can be a real struggle! rolleyes

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus rhi943730

      Posted

      It's the stigma of knowing you have an STD, and not a simple one like chlamydia which can be cured. It's also the stigma that you know other people have about GH, plus its annoying recurrent nature. Think that all doesn't help once you get the diagnosis.

      When I was still unsure what was wrong with me, I was initially thinking a pimple or yeast, then hoping for gonorrhea or chlamydia when that seemed unlikely, then after I tested negative for those two, I was praying for genital HSV-1, but still nope, lol.

      However, there are things worse than HSV-2 and GH generally, and once you get over the initial outbreak, it's good to know you can feel and be normal again. :D

    • babygiiiirl0634
      babygiiiirl0634 rhi943730

      Posted

      Awwww, stay strong I promise. I will pray for all of you. None of us deserve this!
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