Help. I'm Feeling FAT

I worked in the medical field, and I don't know of anyone who eats five servings of anything in a day that's just way too much food for one and two if you want to lose weight I would suggest you try intermittent fasting. Basically it starts out very slow you do it once or twice a week and it's basically not eating for 16 hours starting the night before and just going until the next day until lunch time. Look it up on the web. Eat vegetables but not 5 servings a day unless you're vegetarian.

I can sympathise with you, I felt like I was gaining weight and I managed to loose a stone over several months, the way I done it was to cut out bread in the week, so for breakfast I switched to say porridge. I did watch what I ate in the day and filled up on fruit and my evening meals I put in a bowl to limit what I was having and switched potatoes for cauliflower mash but still ate normal at weekends. I swim at least twice a week and I didnt really feel hungry doing this, perhaps in the first week or so, it' s about really thinking what you eat in the day

That is a very difficult habbit to get over. I would try weight watchers just go online and go check out groups its called weight watchers freestyle. It is very helpful just to read the posts it's very encouraging you are not alone. 

I can relate...  I'm trying too...   Right now I'm eating blueberries and oatmeal for breakfast-- if I snack I try to snack on cucumbers and peppers just because I like eating them.  I bought some healthy bread and have one slice if I'm in the mood for a sandwich--   I eat alot of eggs, some chicken drink a lot of water..  I make veggie soup and lentil soup so that I have it on hand.  I've cut back on going out to eat but I still have trouble with sweets.   I do exercise but my main focus is what I eat.   It's a lot of work but worth it!!  That's all I hear about anymore is about important nutrition is and how it heals the body.

 I can kinda relate I’m in perimenopause and so almost two years ago this June I decided to lose some weight hoping it would help with my knees (arthritis) which got in Peri and also hoped it would help my hormones years ago I had lost a lot of weight and helped to regulate my periods before that I was irregular so for years I was super regular till about six years ago and the wacky crazy periods have begun....I have lost fifty pounds so far by not dieting nothing is off limits....I watch my portions don’t weigh things I weigh myself once a week and measure my self with a measuring tape once a month....it hasn’t helped my periods lol but it’s small changes over time I eat slowly focus on what I’m eating I get fuller faster doing that I drink a ton of water but I have for about fifteen years....some days I over eat but I get right on track whether it be the next meal or the next day I have a whole different mindset I have good weeks and not so good but I focus on the big picture and what I achieved so far I really can’t pig out like I used too I made small changes over time nothing too overwhelming I think when we want to lose the weight over night and are in rush we need to realize this is a process and patience is key good luck to you and please keep us posted 

Hi Daisy,

I heard myself in your words.  In peri- so much is out of our control, weight seems like just another thing, but perhaps something we have a little more control over. 

Starting with one serve of vegetables is a great start!  I would add one serve of fruit too. Increase your water a bit; that definitely helps with appetite. 

Building on your idea, I started losing weight cutting out sugar and multi-ingredient carbs.  That is no bread or pasta, but plenty of single ingredient carbs like pears and apples and even a potato or two. It took a bit to get rid of white sugar and flour, but I feel better having done it.  (There are reputable studies that say white sugar is more addictive than cocaine.) 

Also remember that women are held to a very different and absurd body standard.  One of my favorite authors, David Sedaris, describes men's bodies as "sport utility vehicles that take their important thoughts and opinions from one place to another." Whereas in his family, women had to be ornamental and attractive. His mother smoked herself to death trying to suppress her appetite and live up to that standard. 

We love you exactly as you are! 

Just an update. Thank you ALL for helping me. Just reading the posts keeps me more focused. So last week I started adding a vegetable to every supper.  I've heard it takes 3 weeks to become a habit, so I'm not quitting.Starting next Monday, I am going to try to add a fruit to each breakfast. Or is the sugar in fruit bad for you?

Thanks everyone. I was about to give up since all the holiday parties have so much good food. Back on track after reading this. Set my box of candy out for my co-workers. Getting through New Year's will be another challenge, but it will help if I am already eating my fruit and veggies.

So hard to get out and walk. Only 10 degrees and wind chills in negative numbers. A few feet of snow. I will walk a half mile to my car later to get to the parking lot. Better than nothing. Took the shuttle from the lot, but it doens't run when I leave work.

I think next week I will give myself a personal rule: if I break down and want snacks (potato chips/pretzels), I have to measure out one once of each. It's a start in my effort to cut down.