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Help me convince my cousin for therapy

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john54121
john54121

My cousin has extreme mood swings and occurs depressed . The other day she confided to me about her life.  She was sexually abused by her classmate at age 14. She has had a long string of short term relationship after that and none of them seemed to work out and ends badly for her. But she continues to seek out for it. Lately she has been seeing a guy and he is dominating and abusive as well. I had asked her to seek medical advice after she told me her story, but she is unwilling to even consider it. Also she cannot seem to break up from her current boyfriend and I have given up.

Can someone help to diagnose her illness and How can I convince her to see a professional.

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  • Introvert1190
    Introvert1190 john54121

    Posted

    John,

    Unfortunately no one can diagnose her because 1) we don't know her symptoms and 2) a diagnosis would take a face to face interaction. I'm sorry your cousin has been through so much..

    I'm sure this is a difficult spot for you to be in.. One thing you can do is try to talk to her about being open to seeing someone or maybe just talking to her regular doctor about it. If she doesn't want to, then there is nothing you can do to force her. The only thing you can do after that is to just support her, be there to listen when she needs to talk, make sure she knows you love her and care about her and only want what's best for her

    • john54121
      john54121 Introvert1190

      Posted

      Thank you for your reply. I will be there for her always. But I really wish I could do something more for her. A few signs I observed was that although she opens up to me she has a tendency to lie often about things. And only after several tries she will reveal the truth. Also she insists that her boyfriend is the best person in the world and that he will not do anything  to harm her. But that is not the case since i can see visible signs of abuse. She would not alow me to talk to her boyfriend and threatens to harm herself if I do.

       

  • kelly55079
    kelly55079 john54121

    Posted

    It's tough when someone we care about, needs help but they refuse.  My husband is in denial and refuses help.   Keep talking with her.  She needs support!!   Hopefully soon she will agree to therapy.  Offer to go with her!!

    • john54121
      john54121 kelly55079

      Posted

      I did offer to go with her but she denies even having any issues. She just thinks that I am over thinking things and that her boyfriend will protect and care for her.

      I am really sad

  • giant1989
    giant1989 john54121

    Posted

    it's very difficult situation.. one thing you can do perhaps.. if she doesn't want to go for therapy.. you need to bring therapy to her.. try to get in touch with the therapist.. and seek their advice..

    • john54121
      john54121 giant1989

      Posted

      Thanks for the response, I hadnt thought about this. I will try to get in touch with a therapist as soon as possible.
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