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Help me find out what is wrong with me

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nono1975
nono1975

I am 40 yrs old I have 3 daughters 1 grand baby and my husband that I live with. My last job was 5 years ago I cook wash clean most of the time but lately I noticed I just don't care about anything anymore I feel overwhelmed bored sad ill tired most of the rime. I relized I have no dreams no goals no ambitions. I noticed I play with my grand baby just to keep her happy but I'm not feeling it I noticed I would worry about whats for dinner now I dont even care if they eat. I used to fight with my husband most of the time now I dont care if he leaves and comes back. i used to worry about bills money home staying clean now I dont even think I notice any of it. I used to want to live happily ever after but I see it will never be so I settled to live a life like this. I have no real friends because they only come around when they need me so now they're a bother to me. what happened to me? why do I feel like I'm already dead inside. I feel so tired fed up with life no excitment no love no attention.  

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  • jran
    jran nono1975

    Posted

    Hi Nono

    I am 63 but remember feeling like that. Maybe its a mid life crisisn thing. An Empty nest syndrome.Also it may be depression or starting menopause, your young but its possible. Go to the doctor a lady doctor may be better. Tell her how your feeling ask for help.Yoyou are in the best years of your life.Still young enough to travel to enjoy an do things you have always wanted to do. Make sure you go to

  • mvwaugh
    mvwaugh nono1975

    Posted

    Sounds as if you are having a mid life crisis rather than being seriously clinically depressed. I remember feeling like that when I was about 50. I married late and so my kids left home when I was older than you. Now I am in my mid 70s and having to adjust to being older and more limited in what I can do. I recognised when the blues hit that I needed to expand my horizons beyond the house and decided to do something for others. I did a training for helping people at the citizens advices bureau which was good. It brought me into contact with new people both clients and fellow workers. It also gave me new confidence. All the others training were also at a point in their life when they needed something more to do. I hope you can find yourself again too and that these thoughts might help. M
    • nono1975
      nono1975 mvwaugh

      Posted

      Thank you for your advice I actually did find myself helping out others in rewards that seeing them happy was enough to satisfy me but when its notice that people actually just come around when they need something its really very harmful to someone who is dieing to be part of something not to get acknowledged other than when needed.
  • rsteinbach90
    rsteinbach90 nono1975

    Posted

    I would seek a counselor of some sort, especially an older counselor that has been through their own mid-life crisis.  It is difficult to know what you have since a mid-life crisis and depression tend to show up at the same time period.  Whatever you do, please find someone to talk to.
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