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Hi I'm new to this site. Let me start by saying My partner of 7 years has started drinking alot more than he used to and it's becoming a problem. We have a three year old and a 7 week old and it's not good us arguing all the time in front of them because of his drinking. He blames me for making him drink as he says I nag him all the time. Please any advice is welcome. 

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    Hi Amy! Don't ever think it's your fault hun, you've been awesome so far, the only person who managed to get him to at least go is you, so Jodie there. ​he mat be rejecting it as he can gradually see a life without drink looming and it's something he feels he's not ready know the old adage "yeah I can quit tomorrow". as Paul said, the attitude towards it may not be right yet. Try to get him to put "i don't want to do detox" into proper reasons. If he says because I love drink too much then we'll have to decide next from there.

    I've been in a child situation and she asked me to leave so I did, but they weren't my kids. I don't know what the advice would be on walking out / kicking him out. Just probe with "how do you think the kids well feel if you're not around for them in a couple of years etc. Keep strong & Godspeed.

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      I'm taking kids to see him later on as I feel if I don't let him see them then he will probably use it as an excuse to drink more (he has used the kids as an excuse before) and also it's not healthy for kids not  to see him as after all he is there dad. I'm going to try and  talk to him about why he left detox and see what going on  if he says he just loves drink too much I don't no what I'm going to do. 
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      I doubt he loves the drink Amy. Nobody wants to be dependent on alcohol. He is just struggling. I wonder if he was getting sufficient medication to counteract the withdrawal symptoms fully. If it was a specialist unit he was admitted to, it should have been sufficient. There will be a reason and it won't be that he simply doesn't want to sort out the problem. These things can be very complex and he may be drinking to deal with an emotional issue you are not aware of.
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