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I ll try to be as short as I can.
My best friend is alcoholic. He knows it and most of the time controls his drinking.
We have a really strong relationship and I try as much as I can to help him.
I came to England 7 years ago, and from the start, he always helped me as i dont have any family over here. He is like a father to me, and it is what we told people.
He helped me make my dream come true, when I decided to meet my future husband in Africa, and to have him come here in England.
Unfortunately, my husband and me split up 6 months ago. He left me with 2 young daughters to cope on my own.
My best friend supported me all the way, for the kids as well.
His only pb is his drinking habit. He does drink up to two bottles of red a day, mixed with water. Spread out from morning till evening.
Most of the time, he is fine. He got his habit under control but sometimes it catches him up, for no real reason.
When i had my first daughter i went back part time to work. He was babysitting my daughter, but sometimes, i had to phone sick because he was anable to have her.
Now i want to study to apply to a 3 year midwifery course at uni.
It is a big and long term commitment of a few years.he said he ll do anything to help me achieving that, as i want to have a carreer for the future of my children.
the thing is,.he cant be sober during these 5 years.
he has mixed feelings for me. He sees me as a "private girlfriend"... Bcs in public we are father/daughter but in private it is different.
since im separated from my husband, he sees me as "free" and wants sexe in return of his commitment. I dont want to bcs our relationship was never like that.
his few last drinks we argued all the time about that. To the point we had a physical fight last month, which made me so scared of him now.
i felt obliged to have some sexe.
its a horrible position to be in, as he always helped me. I sees my girls everyday, they are so much part of his life, and as i said, outside he is a lovely grandad.
but i feel i have to break away from him, even if it does hurt. I understand the drinking problems and i was always around when he was down, in withdraws... But i feel it is going nowhere now my husband left me.
he doesnt understand how i feel. Elwe had an argument this week and now it seems that there is no road back. Im really depressed because it is christmas soon and we had plans for the kids. It seems he doesnt want to speak to me
I feel i lost my best friend, but at the same time, i dont want all that in my childrens life...
im ready to reply to any questions and so...
thank you very much for your help
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