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Sitting here reading all your stories and thank God, you have all got through it and on the road to recovery.
I'm here on the search for advise for the horror of my brothers life. He is a single dad to his boy with Austism, unable to work from a work related inujury to his back My brother with un-diagnosed diverticulitis, ended up in A & E with severe abdominal pain, must have been bad for him to ask my mum to drive him (an experience like no other). Had to have emgency operation, where they had to remove half his bowel and fitted a colostomy bag. Cut open from groin to chest. Spent time in ICT, they needed the ICT bed, so while waiting for a bed on a ward, he got stuck in A & E. Naked except for a sheet, no blanket (hot in ICT) not so hot in A & E.
Got on a ward, basically no care or compassion being given at all. He is 41 Years old. Tubes still coming out of everywhere, both sides machines, tubes, drips etc. Pain relief given late every day, has to constantly request it, then it finally gets brought. Then have to wait til it kicks in, for it to then to start wearing off to nothing and the process starts again. Told him he has start to walk, which he has said, if you help me I will. (tubes, wires etc) been in bed now for 3 weeks, so weak and muscle wasting. They are quick enough to get him out of bed to dump him in a chair, but won't give him anything so he can get himself upright. Walking frame to lean on, nothing. Just expected to stand up from sitting position and walk.
He has been complained for the last week, he can't breath properly and noticed a lump under his arm. Being a weekend, waiting til today for a consultant to look at the resluts of the tests that they have carried out to see what they are going to do. Turns out he has a blood clot under his arm and pnemonia. (Probably from when they moved him from ICT to A&E to ward - in nothing more than a sheet)
Due to his back injury he asked for a bed more suitable that he could adjust, to be told they are for the elderly and inferm.
He is now not in very good place, mentally and honestly doesn't think he will get out of the hospital alive.
Me being 65 miles (whole family since he has been in there have had the sickness and diarrhea bug - in one form or another) so couldn't go down at weekends, incase he caught it, 2 kids at school, 1 at nursery and hubby who works all the hours God sends, I can't be with him and fight his corner. My sister tries and complains, but feels like it is on deaf ears. Every visit though it is a stand off over his pain relief. Everyone else in the ward is of the older generation, so he doesn't really have anything in common or anyone to talk to.
Visitors are never there when the Dr comes to ask questions.
What are we to do! I want to go down at the weekend, but now have a cold (run down for caring for averyone else and worrying about him) I don't want to kick off too much, in case his care deteriorates further.
Need help, don't know what to do.
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