Herpe relationship question

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Ive been dating this girl a while. She had a questionable partner in the past, she was tested for STD and everything and everutjong was clean. Apparently they dont test for herpes on a std screening.

She developed a rash on her butt cheel and had swollen lymph nodes in the groin area. We researched the rash and its identical to some of the pictures.

She is refusing to get tested. Says she must have it amd cant see paying money at a doctor to tell her something they cam do nothing about.

She said if i pay for her visot she will go, she is far from broke. Then she tells me she just wont have sex no more to be safe. That is just selfish in my opinion. I am clean as far as i know. Im going to get tested, but she refuses. Its mormal to be a bit upset, right?

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  • Posted

    If it is herpes and she developed swollen lymph nodes in the groin, then it sounds like a first outbreak, and first outbreaks mostly (but not always) occur within a week of infection. When did she experience these symptoms? Just recently? I am pro-testing, so would suggest you both get tested for herpes. IgG antibody test (not IgM), and a swab test if she has lesions. It may or may not be herpes, and if so, it's good to know the type.

    • Posted

      Thanks for the reply. Started about a week ago. It is slowly clearing up. Im almost 100% postive i am cleam, i was married 20 yrs amd with one person. Never had symptoms, nor do i now. She has had sweeling in her lympnodes before, she also had a cold. She had a auto immune disorder also she tested for.
    • Posted

      Oh, so it could be related to any one of those things! Does she actually have blisters or what look like canker sores? Either way, it's better to test than to assume. You should both test together (both IgG, plus swab for her while the rash/lesions are still newish).

  • Posted

    Hey,

    If your partner won't admit something is wrong, then you need to get out of there. You can still have a loving relationship with a peson open about there condition, but Herpes is a very unenjoyable experience that is not worth catching from someone who is not concerned about there health or yours.

    • Posted

      On the contrary, his gf automatically thinks something is wrong and won't test because she feels it's pointless to confirm what she already think believes she has. Quite different to being in denial. Testing is still worthwhile in her case, however. Not wanting to have sex anymore is another issue for the OP.

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