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elizabeth57127
elizabeth57127

I was just diagnosed last week. How do I make peace with having herpes? I feel nasty, depressed, and doomed.

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  • jessica93013
    jessica93013 elizabeth57127

    Posted

    Don't! We go thru a depressed state when we find out we have this uncureable disease but ya know what? It's not the end of the world.. you'll still be here tomorrow. I was diagnosed in august and I went thru the same emotions I felt like I'd never have sex again my sex life was ruined my life was ruined. But it's not do ur research find out if the meds help u educate yourself on this. It sucks that there has to be this thing that makes us feel like this but don't let it define u!

    • elizabeth57127
      elizabeth57127 jessica93013

      Posted

      Thank you jessica. I keep telling myself that I will get through this but then I think about HOW DO I TELL A GUY I LIKE I HAVE HERPES?

      I'VE cried, screamed, took my meds and all I can think is OMG I'm contagious.

      I know it could be worse but I suppose it's day by day. I guess I'm *normal* for just finding out.

  • kyra98
    kyra98 elizabeth57127

    Posted

    I was also diagnosed last week and and struggling to come to terms with it. Some days I say to myself 'Herpes does not define me' and others I get upset because I realise this is with me forever. I feel better about it by coming and posting on this forum, it makes me feel like I'm not alone, because we aren't. So many other people have herpes yet it is still a very taboo topic that people poke fun at which can be upsetting but so many people do not realise that having just a coldsore means they have herpes. 

    I know exactly how you feel as I am in the same boat as you, but please don't let this get the better of you. Talk about it! Never feel alone.

    I've not yet experienced telling someone new that I have herpes since it is my current and first boyfriend who gave it to me. He is not being as supportive as I would have thought but so many people out there will not shy away from you if you tell them. If you educate them on it and how contagious it is (especially speak about the low chance of passing it on if you have no symptoms) I'm sure most decent people will be understanding. Sex should not be ruined for you or anyone with herpes.

    But please speak about it whether its with someone you trust or on here :]

    xx

    • elizabeth57127
      elizabeth57127 kyra98

      Posted

      Thanks Kyra. I know it's going to take time to adjust. I know it does not change who I am in my heart and all these mixed emotions will soon calm down but wow it has hit me like a truck of brick.

      The thing I'm struggling with the most is feeling nasty. With God's help I will overcome this but it's going to be a long haul.

    • kyra98
      kyra98 elizabeth57127

      Posted

      Oh yes, feeling nasty. I've been bathing 3 times a day because I feel disgusting. However we aren't nasty or disgusting, this is a result of something natural so we shouldn't feel this way.

      Stay strong <3

    • elizabeth57127
      elizabeth57127 kyra98

      Posted

      Lol. I guess we got all ocd about it cause i done the same thing trying to wash it away only to sit and cry.

    • elizabeth57127
      elizabeth57127

      Posted

      Thank you so much. It helps to know I'm not alone and others have felt the same way.

  • dora29322
    dora29322 elizabeth57127

    Posted

    Ladies, ladies, ladies ...

    We all are in the same boat. This will not define who i am & it should not define anyone else for that matter. This site has been amazing for the support i have received. One day we will find that true soul who will accept us for who we are ? ? ? ?

    In the mean time i will seek knowledge, advice, and support from this site

    Thank ya'll sooo much for the encouragement you have provided me. Thanks again for your love and light, you have no idea what it means

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