Herpes
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Hi I'm a 30 year old male who hasn't been in a sexual relationship for about 18 months . I split with my long term girlfriend and had another sexual partner and then started to have a long distance relationship with my ex girlfriend we used protection because I had been with this other girl but I didn't have any symptoms at this time but we decided to call it a day and for the past 18 months or so I haven't been sexually active but about 8 months ago I had 3 small cuts on my foreskin with red skin around them . I though that I had cut myself during masterbation this happened again a few months later and I didn't think to much into it but the next time I noticed this I had 3 clear liquid filled blisters very small . I was on holiday at my fathers house and hadn't masterbated for a week ( normally I do once or twice a day ) anyway after seeing this it made me wonder what was going on , it cleared up fast and with work etc I kind of put it to the back of my head but again the three liquid filled blisters have appeared and I went straight to the docs I got an appointment but they had burst and started to disappear . The doctor had proscribed acyclovir and took a swab of the affected area . Also I have noticed the ringing sensation once or twice just like you get when you get a coldsore . I don't suffer from cold sores , ive had 2 my whole life and that was when I was a kid . Anyway I just feel so down about it and I have read articles about your sex life not being over etc but I don't think you can help but feel dirty and feel that no one would want to get close to you knowing you have herpes and I wouldn't have sex with someone without telling them . Ok it's not been confirmed that I have herpes but it certainly sounds like it doesn't it ? Sorry for the long winded post I just can't get it out my head and don't know where to go from here ? I have been talking to a girl who wants to date but I keep putting dating off because I don't want to get close to someone and then find out I do have herpes and have to tell them . When I say close I don't mean sex as I wouldn't until I was given the clear or told them and taken all precautions not to pass it on to them . Plus even after taking precisions I think I would find it hard to relax and not think what if I give her herpes
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laura97428
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kurt66150 laura97428
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You can get herpes from kissing, someone spitting on you, coughing on you. As long as their fluids come in contact with your skin.
Same goes for any HIV with their body fluid making contact with your skin.
pixie1989
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Laura hun you having herpes doesnt mean he has cheated on you he could have caught it from one of his exes but hasnt had an outbreak and may never have one i thought the same about my boyfriend when i found out i had it but honestly it doesnt mean he has cheated.
Andy if you used to have coldsores you will already have antibodies against herpes virus doesnt mean you cant catch type 2 just means your antibodies will help fight outbreaks faster my boyfriend used to suffer with coldsores so he had antibodies which ment he may never have an outbreak but i most likely caught herpes from him through oral sex
There is so much stigma surrounding genital herpes that most people think people that have it must have slept around these people just need to understand it better so for new partners ect get some articles up on google about and look through and read some with them but i will say even using condoms there is still a 2% chance you can pass it on dont let it ruin anything though
I felt really bad when i was diagnosed and i had a very bad outbreak you need to build your immune system up so take vitamins everyday and foods that are natually red in colour strengthen your immune system too this will help against any future outbreaks some people are lucky like me and dont have another outbreak for a while i havnt had one since my first others can have around 6 outbreaks for the few years
Please dont feel bad or dirty these things do happen i looked at it as there are people out there that have worse then this even though this is not curable it is so easily managable xx
andy_39956
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laura97428
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kurt66150 laura97428
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You could shake someones hand at the bar, go to the bathroom, after wipe your self, you just contracted herpes. H stand for Highly I stand for infecious V stand for Virus.
pixie1989
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I know how you feel though i felt exactly the same its easier to deal with it mentally when you are 100% what the results are after a while my blisters went like cuts and i did have a few cut looking sores aswell so yours could have been the same
Give yourself time to get used to it mentally and emotionally stress is one of the things that bring on an outbreak but i promise you its not all bad you will get used to signs of when your about to have an outbreak so you can start on meds to help it before aswell and future out breaks wont be nowhere near as bad as your first few
Honestly i know it feels like it at the minute but its not the end of the world or relationships xx
andy_39956
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Thanks again pixie I know what your saying and tbh right now I don't have a desire for a relationship or sex but I suppose that's normal when you have this going on . The last 18 months I have been working harder than ever so haven't been looking for a relationship but without thinking about it the plan was to work hard get to where I want to be with work and then relax a little and maybe start dating again now I just can't get my head around meeting someone, having feeling for them and acting on them knowing I could give them herpes :-(
andy_39956
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pixie1989
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Good luck to you hun i hope its as easy for you as it has been for me i know i have been very lucky with outbreaks apart from my first which was very bad but since then i have had the odd sore but nothing major and lasted a matter of days
Xx
andy_39956
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pixie1989
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In the meantime u just focus on you and getting you better x
andy_39956
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