herpes
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So far I have told 2 people I had herpes and is causing a problem they didn't want to see me again...should I ever have sex again? with people who don't have herpes? I'm really confused.. and get very few outbreaks ..what are their chances of getting herpes from me when I don't have an outbreak.. are they greater when you have an outbreak or not...I have never had sex with anyone when I had an outbreak I never really thought about it that much until recently... I already have enough issues about sex and now I have to add one more
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booboo87 darshan
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darshan booboo87
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booboo87 darshan
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feelbroken booboo87
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feelbroken darshan
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You absolutely can spread it when you are not showing signs and symptoms. 70% of cases, someone caught from an asymptomatic carrier, which means they shed virus and display no physical symptoms or signs. This is called asymptomatic shedding and it is estimated to happen 12-30% of the days.
Arw you male or female, so I can provide statistics for you?
Also, please Google H Opportunity. This website has disclosure pamphlets yo download, has accurate info, unlike this person who continues to spread ignorance on this site and can't backup any thing she says, as she did this on a Post yesterday and was proven wrong and had to eat her words. Please check out the site, it has videos to help you through a proper disclosure, the top notch herpes clinic and specialists w statistics. This site is great for medical info, aside from a few bd apples on here spreading bad info, but this other site is specifically for people in your situation.
darshan feelbroken
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feelbroken darshan
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darshan feelbroken
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I got diagnosed 3 years ago and it started thinking that I need to tell people about it. I told someone about it the other day and he flip freaked out and not seen him anymore.
Also my sex lige is sporadic..i often go more than a year without having sex...
feelbroken darshan
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So what you're saying is, you didn't disclose to sexual partners your diagnosis and when you did w one person after sleeping w them already, they freaked and left you?
darshan feelbroken
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feelbroken darshan
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He didn't reject you because you have herpes, he rejected you because you LIED. You took away his right as an individual, to make the choice to be w you. I have 6 gfs w herpes and only one has experienced rejection when she was very you g, yet he was still willing to sleep w her, so clearly it was just an excuse and he wanted sex.
Wow darshan, that's a long time to go w out disclosing to partners. I sincerely hope you change your ways, it's not OK what you're doing.
You'd be amazed at how positive some people will respond w the proper disclosure, such as stating how much they mean to you, so you wanted to be honest w them, etc, etc, tends to make people see how much humility, integrity, character and courage you have as an individual, to have such a hard conversation w them and you respected them that much to tell them the truth.
I hope you find those traits deep w in yourself to start being honest. I apologize if I cannot be more supportive or feel bad for you, as it was someone like you who lied to me and didn't give me the choice, so I can not feel bad for your rejection, cause your rejection wasn't from a place of honesty, but from a place of deceit. I don't know where you live, but it is illegal in the UK and the US to knowingly pass herpes onto someone and not tell them before hand. In fact, there is a man going to prison for 14 months I believe in the UK for doing this.
May god bless your soul and give you the strength.
darshan feelbroken
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feelbroken darshan
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I'm calling a spade a spade. You did not tell him until after sex, it's called lying by omission. I am going off things you said.
o·mis·sion
əˈmiSH(ə)n,ōˈmiSH(ə)n/
noun
someone or something that has been left out or excluded.
"there are glaring omissions in the report"
synonyms:exclusion, leaving out, exception; More
the action of excluding or leaving out someone or something.
"the omission of recent publications from his bibliography"
synonyms:exclusion, leaving out, exception; More
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paul92131 darshan
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I have recently told somebody what I have after having protected sex with her a few times before. She took it very well and we are still dating. This was my first time I've had to tell anyone, as I haven't had a sexual relationship in the 4 years of having this. I can imagine the rejection being hard to take, but there is people out there that will except you for what you are not what you have. I can't offer medical advice, as it all confuses the hell out of me.
The way I now look at it is, people need to know and once the do and they except it, things seem to feel semi normal again. A feeling that I thought I would never have again when I got diagnosed.
First positive and I'm sure you will find someone.
darshan paul92131
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flawbeautifully darshan
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I am new to this whole process i Have just recently found out i have hsv2 Friday afternoon.....i told my bestfriend and my partner......though im scared to tell anyone else i jst need someone to talk to im not ready to face this i still cant quite believe it honestly im trying to cope and be ok i jst dont knw wat to do😒😞😢